Choosing a school for children is one of the most important decisions, but many parents are behaving as if choosing a new home for themselves: Longing their way to work, knowing the board of directors, listening to the rumor that the school "all teachers are good, the teacher is good", or because of its reputation to "break your faces". The problem is: all of these criteria revolve around adults - not children.
The biggest mistake in the journey of raising children is that parents think they are doing the best for their children, but in fact are looking for peace of mind and satisfaction for themselves. As a result, many children are crammed into inappropriate environments, having to carry expectations and delusions of adults, and gradually losing interest in learning and natural development.
Understanding children is not to control, but to accompany
Each child is an independent individual - not a copy of their father, nor a "better" version of their mother. When choosing a school, the prerequisite is to understand what your child likes, how to study, where they can develop their abilities and feel themselves. School is where children grow up every day - not a launching pad for achievements, let alone a product for parents to show off.
Suitability is a prerequisite, not famous, not close to home
There are small schools with facilities not as good as "top schools", but they possess an understanding and flexible pedagogical environment. There are classes where every child is listened to and developed in their own way. On the contrary, there are score schools that cause children to fall into the race for achievements, the pressure of taking exams and feeling compared every day. The new blend is the core value - reputation cannot replace happiness.
Understand how to learn to choose how to develop your child
Children learn in many ways: some are prone to intuition, some are sensitive to sound, some like to explore and practice. Choosing a school without understanding how your child studies is a big risk. If children are slow to learn but forced to study in accelerated programs, if they are introverted but put in a competitive environment - that is how we harm them without knowing it.
The ability to absorb - not the determination of parents
Whether children are good at studying or not depends sometimes not on the number of extra hours, but on their ability to receive knowledge. Some children are slow to learn but think deeply. Some children need a low-pressure environment to shine. Parents need to see their children as a piece of land - some need light, some need water, some just need to rest and bloom.
Promoting strengths instead of forcing children to weaknesses
Stop bending children according to adult standards. Instead, observe what you play, what you have fun, what you are passionate about. The child's strength is the key to guiding the entire development journey. Focusing on opening up strengths will help children be happy, while trying to correct weaknesses can only make children tired and disoriented.
A career is not a dream for parents left behind
Don't wait until your child is about to take the university entrance exam to ask yourself: "What do you like?" That question needs to be planted from the years when you start to grow up. When children know who they are, what they are strong about, what they like, they will have the right to choose a career because of passion, not because of "safe" or "stability" according to their parents' wishes. Orientation is not forced, but suggests real possibilities from the child's inner strength.
Be parents with empathy, not authority. Choose a school, choose a method, choose a career for your child with a loving heart and knowledgeable eyes. A happy child when learning the right place will always develop better than a child who must study himself in an adult who thinks "good". Because in the end, the school is yours - not ours.
