I came to play a friend who suddenly saw the stifling family atmosphere. The 9th -grade son, the face of the nose, the husband and his wife seemed to be apologizing. When I asked, I knew that in the morning, she went to a parent meeting, found that her son's transcript was quite beautiful, so she took the phone and took it online to send greetings to her son. It seemed that I would be happy, I did not expect to come back to my son's house and rushed out to say: "Why do you do that. I don't like it. Mom harm me ...". She froze and scolded her for a while. The husband then reminded his wife: "You are right, from the back you do not do that." So she turned to angry with both children and her husband.
In the digital age, sharing children's academic achievements has become a " Modern Parenting trend". With just a few clicks, the scoreboard, award, certificate of merit, even a photo of the child at the summary ceremony were widely "show off" - accompanied by a series of compliments and symbols "open heart" and " applause". For many parents, that is a legitimate pride. But for children, this is sometimes a hurt, even a prolonged pressure.
Many children do not have the right to speak up in the matter of publicly sharing personal images or achievements. But in reality, the current Law on Children has a provision that children aged 7 and over have the right to be consulted before parents post personal information. However, most parents do not understand or do not pay due attention to this.
In fact, some children are distorted and boycotted in the school environment because they are "labeled well". The whispering words like "only know how to learn", "a rich person's children are good at studying, what's so terrible about them"... hurt their self-respect. This creates a gap between children and friends, while limiting opportunities for comprehensive development of life skills and communication.
Education experts recommend: Behaving good children if not careful can be counterproductive. Children are more likely to put their self-worth at the same level as their scores, more likely to collapse when they fail and have difficulty developing in a balanced way. More importantly, the right to not to show off is part of the right to be respected.
In response to the story of my brother and I can only advise: Maybe, ask your child's opinion before posting a photo or sharing personal information. Second, instead of focusing only on academic achievements, share moments of family attachment, progress in behavior, efforts to overcome difficulties, or your child's compassion. Those are the values that truly contribute to the formation of personality.
Of course, there will still be people showing off their children's achievements, but it seems like they are doing this for themselves, not necessarily for their children. A sharing button seems harmless, but can have a big impact on psychological development and the relationship between parents and children. So, consider carefully before making your children's academic achievements public.
