Disconnection, the pain of modern families
Before coming to the Minh Tri Thanh environment, the family of Mr. Duong Luong Thien (a journalist in Can Tho) and Ms. Nguyen Thi Thuy An (a bank employee) fell into a fairly common scenario of modern families: Loss of connection.
Ms. An always wonders why she has tried her best, giving the best things to her child, but her child has changed negatively. When he was young, his child was very obedient and listened. But in 8th grade, his child indulged in playing games, neglecting his studies. Meanwhile, with the thinking of a sharp journalist, Mr. Thien put a heavy emphasis on results and scores. He considers his child playing games and being lazy to study as a failure.
The child closed the room door tightly, refused to share and buried himself in the game. The couple could not talk to the child. Engulfing the family space was the worry and anxiety of the mother and the disappointment and discomfort of the father. Scary silence enveloped every time the whole family sat down together.
The knot began to be removed when Ms. An learned about the free sharing program "Road to your heart" by Master of Psychology Nguyen Thi Lanh and Minh Tri Thanh Academy. She was determined to pursue her studies despite her husband's initial objections.
Here, she realized a core thought: "The child's problem originates from the parents themselves. Children are a mirror reflecting the hurts and behaviors of adults". Instead of continuing to "fix the child", she returned to "fix herself". She learned to recognize and recognize. Instead of scrutinizing mistakes, she learned to see her child's efforts, even the smallest ones, to praise and encourage.
Children are a bridge for parents to build a family together
Witnessing the miraculous change from his wife - a wife who rarely shows affection has become peaceful, loving and positive - Mr. Thien decided to shed prejudices to accompany his wife. He realized that for a long time he had loved his child by imposition, instead of understanding. And his child is the "great teacher" for him and his wife to turn to one side and together build a happy family.
The application of new thinking has brought a completely new face to the couple's family, not only in raising children but also in career and marital affection.
Previously, when he saw his child studying little and getting low scores, he often criticized and asked his child to focus on studying. When participating in the program, he learned about thinking: Children are sacred gifts; Each child is a genius in a certain field. He understood that scores do not speak to their personality. Criticism and prohibition only hurt children and gradually alienate them from their parents.
Thanks to that, instead of just looking at scores, Mr. Thien began to recognize his son's progress. Besides, he also did not strictly prohibit his son from playing games and actively stepped into his son's world. He asked his son to teach him to play games, to play with him to understand why his son is passionate. Changing his thinking and way of communicating helped him break the wall separating him from his son.
Son, from being disconnected and taciturn, has become closer and shares everything with his father. From his parents' example, he voluntarily reduces his time playing games and starts reading books with his parents. The image of the whole family reading and sharing good books has replaced the stressful moments before.
After 20 years of working just to "pay salaries" and lack goals, he seemed to be "reborn". He goes to work with a positive attitude, full of enthusiasm and energy every day. Colleagues and everyone around acknowledge this change.
The relationship between husband and wife also gradually changed. The initial opposition disappeared, replaced by wonderful companionship. Ms. An knew how to show affection and respect to her husband more. The two no longer argued about how to raise children but looked in the same direction, taking love and understanding as guiding principles.
