The first person had a quiet childhood, his parents broke up when he was young. Deep inside, maybe because of childhood psychological trauma, outside has a strong independence, he still has some thoughts that he himself does not understand love, or more extreme, I do not deserve love. He deliberately dodged love so he did not suffer tormenting - something he always suffered when he was young because he wanted to pay attention from adults.
Even when I get care and concern from others, I still tell myself that love is not real, that care is superficial and accidental, I try to find some reason to not have to pay too much attention to the other person - he said.
The amazing thing is that I have never seen him show... infidelity. It seems that he deceived himself, thanks to which he was always able to miraculously overcome deep love affairs.
A second friend is different, that is the type of person who easily sacrifices, even with things that go against their wishes in love, to... be loved. I sat all the time to comfort her friend, after a breakup. She questioned herself whether she was too clumsy and didn't know how to express her love, so the other person left her. She said that she needs a relationship, needs a lover, needs the love of others to the point of being willing to eliminate all the basic standards and "repeat" her own desires. So when I broke up, I always saw her struggling.
Lowering standards is never the right formula to create love, it is just a testament to not knowing your own value and not daring to believe that you deserve it.
The two stories of two friends, it is also unknown who is right and who is wrong. How to love is everyone's right. However, in the end, not every man knows how to be a man, nor does every woman know how to live as a real woman, and we all need to learn from that.
So if you want to meet someone in their best version, first of all, be the best version of yourself.
