The other day, the whole group was drinking but without A, so the absent person was "put on the chopping block", even his private life was dissected and discussed, from who A was dating, what other hobbies he had... His ears were ringing, he went outside to smoke a cigarette and saw the oldest person in the group standing in a corner, deep in thought.
He said he would definitely not attend this kind of gathering again, it was tiring, useless and a waste of time. But after all, it was just a waste of time. He chuckled: Next time, if you are away, you will be the drinking bait. Do you want them to dig up your life story and spice it up? Your life is full of secrets!
He sighed: Sometimes friends think they are very close, but unexpectedly they bring each other up to the drinking table, and are proud of knowing more than others. Some people see people talking badly about their close friends and just sit there, not commenting but not defending either. And it is not excluded that those private stories are spread with a different intention. The crowd is not always right. But the majority opinion often has its own power. It is better to have everything clear than to just gossip, throw stones back and forth, which makes no sense and leaves the "victim" no chance to respond.
He laughed again: Life is like that, just live a normal life, without reward or punishment, then no one will say anything bad about you, as a philosopher said, "No one kicks a dead dog." Living with personality, being too thorny or living wisely and being successful will always have jealousy and envy. But practice overcoming all the scorn and gossip like the sky is never hurt by clouds because clouds come and go. And practice living independently, knowing how to be friends with yourself. Life is not that long to worry about what people say. You have your own moral standards, your own value system and living true to yourself is enough.
