She has lived in a toxic relationship for 7 years, always feeling exhausted and losing herself. Until one day, she realized it was time to give up. Although it was painful at first, it was the loss that helped her find peace and space for better things.
As writer Paulo Coelho once wrote in his book The Golden Temple: Never give up a dream just because it takes too long to become a reality. Anyway, time will pass.
Or the story of Steve Jobs, who was fired by his own company - Apple - in 1985. It was a huge loss, but Jobs later admitted: Being sacked from Apple was the best thing that ever happened to me. The burden of success has been replaced by relief when becoming a rookie, less certain about everything. It has liberated me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
Jobs founded NeXT and Pixar, which would later become the foundation for his glorious return to Apple. The loss has helped Jobs regain core values, focusing more on innovation and creating revolutionary products. Loss and pollution are just two sides of the same bill.
On the one hand, it took away. On the other hand, it returns a sense of relief and purity. People often want to wake up without having to trade, but that is just an illusion. Just like a tree that has to lose leaves to sprout young shoots, we also have to learn to let go and grow. "Safe" is often the chain. Only when we lose, do we realize that we are liberated.
People who have experienced incidents often have a different understanding. They understand that life is not about holding on to everything, but about learning to give up. Giving up is not a loss, but to show off the remaining quintessence.
When loss comes, instead of blaming, see it as a purification. Instead of asking, Why me?, try asking, What is this helping me leave behind?. That way of asking the question is enough to turn loss into a journey of healing.
The important thing is that after many losses, how can your original core and essence not be lost to help you courageously continue on the path of life.
