Currently, Mr. B no longer lives with his family because they are not in harmony. He said that after his biological parents divorced, he returned to live with his grandparents. About a year later, his father had a new wife and he returned to live with her.
Before his younger brother was born, Mr. B was always loved and cared for by his stepmother. But when his younger brother was born, Mr. B, who was 6 years old at that time, felt like an "invisible person" in the family. No matter what he says or does, he is scolded, he is very sad.
Mr. B shared with psychologist To Nhi A (lecturer at Ho Chi Minh City Central Pedagogical College): "Three years ago (18 years old), I started working part-time. At that time, my younger brother was still living in the love and protection of his parents.
But he is very passionate about playing games, when playing, he swears, destroys, and owes nearly 40 million VND. At that time, my younger brother came to me and asked for help, but did not say that he had stolen a large sum of money from my father. After that, my younger brother blamed me for being the one who took it, so I was beaten a lot by my father, and my stepmother also scolded me very strongly".
A week later, the younger brother met a lender and was beaten for not paying interest. At this time, his younger brother asked for help from Mr. B, so he lied to his father about asking for money to pay for tuition. But in the end, the matter was discovered, and Mr. B continued to be beaten.
Forced to tell the truth but still unable to regain the trust of his stepmother and stepmother, Mr. B left the house. After that, he received help from a friend's father and arranged to meet many times to meet his biological father, younger brother, and brother's creditor.
When he arrived, Mr. B's biological father learned everything and told Mr. B: "come home with your father". Mr. B refused and still decided to stay alone because he did not feel the love of his father, stepmother, and younger brother.
After hearing the story, Dr. To Nhi A asked: "From the time I was 6 years old until I decided to leave home, during those years, I was often scolded and beaten. ".
Mr. B replied: "When I was young, when I went out and saw beautiful toys, I asked to buy them, but my father ignored them and did not consider me a child."
Dr. To Nhi A continued to ask: "During the time I lived with my father, have you met my mother?". Mr. B shared: "I have almost never seen my mother since we left until now. My mother had an affair".
Dr. To Nhi A commented: "Khoa, let's talk about who is right and who is wrong. I just saw that the hatred in my heart was too great, it was so great that I would not allow myself to forgive. It could also be like the way your father treated you, because you were so tired of hating your mother. He did not take away those resentment but took them out to tie me up."
Dr. To Nhi A further analyzed: "You don't justify your father, but you think that your love for me is much, not small, but he doesn't know how to express it.
If he didn't love you, he wouldn't have welcomed you back to live. If he didn't care about you, he wouldn't have gone to check with you, and he wouldn't have been there to confront the creditor. Behind your hatred, I see you wanting to live in a family, I long for love".
