Arguing when traveling just because you couldn't take beautiful photos
Many couples admit that traveling together is considered an opportunity to "heat up" their feelings, but it can easily become a cause of conflicts. When leaving the daily rhythm of life, differences in habits, preferences or spending methods gradually become clearer.
Ms. Minh Anh (25 years old, Hanoi) said that the recent trip with her lover made Minh Anh unable to "break her dream" when there were continuous arguments, originating from travel photos.
Going on vacation and arguing all the time just because of taking photos. I want to have beautiful, neat photos, but my boyfriend takes photos carelessly, so the two of us easily get angry with each other, losing all the interest in going out," Ms. Minh Anh said.
According to Ms. Minh Anh, the lack of prior agreement on how and when to stop to "hunt for photos" or the level of investment in preserving memories quickly caused both of them to develop tension.
A similar situation also happened to Mr. Tuan Hung (27 years old, Hanoi). Mr. Hung said that the initial excitement was quickly replaced by pressure when his girlfriend spent a lot of time taking pictures.
Many times when we are sightseeing, we have to stop for a very long time to take photos. As soon as the image is not satisfactory, conflicts arise, causing the journey to lose the comfort and joy as expected," Mr. Hung confided.
In fact, taking photos, which seems to be only a small part of a trip, can easily become a cause of conflict, when each person has different expectations and ways of enjoying the trip.
Expecting a perfect trip easily pushes conflicts higher
According to Master of Psychology Bui Thi Hai Yen - founder and operator of the NHC Vietnam Human Psychology and Development System, traveling is an opportunity for couples to bond but also easily leads to conflicts, especially when expectations for taking photos are not the same.
''While traveling, differences in living habits, resting methods or reactions to emergencies such as taking photos are inevitable. Instead of trying to change the other person, respecting differences will help both of you reduce stress,'' the expert said.
In addition, accepting the other person's shortcomings (such as photography skills or the level of interest in "check-in") is also an important factor. When expectations of a perfect trip are reduced and the other person is seen more realistically, the relationship will become flexible and less stressful.
Couples should consider vacations as a journey of experience, instead of focusing on perfection. This is an opportunity to observe, understand and learn to accompany each other," the expert emphasized.
When everyone knows how to adjust expectations and emotions, the trip is not only a time for rest but also becomes an opportunity to strengthen emotional bonds more sustainably.
