emotional closeness is an important foundation for all relationships, especially romantic relationships. When both of you can share and connect deeply, the relationship will become more lasting, attached and healthy. However, not everyone is easily open-minded. Some people tend to withdraw and have difficulty expressing their true feelings, making the other person feel distant or confused.
This does not always stem from your behavior. According to Master Shivani R. Rawa - a consulting psychologist at Dr. Indu Neonatal and Pediatric Care Center (India), emotional withdrawal often comes from experiences, emotions or internal barriers within themselves.
Why are partners caught up and not willing to share their feelings?
Expert Shivani Rawal said: If your partner has difficulty with emotional intimacy, it is not your fault. This stems from the potential threats within them.
Common causes include:
Low self-esteem: People who lack confidence often do not believe that they deserve love. They are afraid of being judged or hurt when expressing themselves, so they tend to suppress and hide their emotions.
Fear of reject or abandonment: past painful experiences such as rejected feelings or abandonment, make them reserved when opening their hearts, always vigilant to avoid being hurt again.
Trust problems: After injuries or betrayals, they develop a strong defensive mechanism. This makes it difficult for them to share their inner thoughts because they are worried about being taken advantage of or being hurt.
Childhood injuries: Lack of affection, abandonment, or growing up in unsafe environments can lead to excessive independence and distance for self-defense.
Anxiety disorder or personality disorders: These psychological problems make it difficult for them to regulate their emotions, understand others, or maintain intimacy. This is not a sign of indifference, but an inner battle they are facing.
How to help your partner become more emotionally ready?
Rawal emphasizes that a relationship can only develop when both of them nurture a lasting emotional connection. To help your partner open up more, you can apply the following methods:
Open communication: Practice the habit of sharing emotions, needs and thinking sincerely. frankness but gentleness helps the other person feel safe when expressing themselves.
Proactive listening: When they share, pay close attention. Avoid distraction, do not judge, and use open-ended questions to show that you truly understand them.
Spend quality time: Do activities that both of you love together to increase cohesion. This is an opportunity to build trust and understand each other more deeply.
Show empathy: Instead of trying to correct or deny their feelings, listen and acknowledge what they are going through. empathy helps them feel accepted and safe.
Create physical closeness: Small gestures such as hugging, holding hands or squeezing can soothe feelings of anxiety and strengthen the connection between two people.
