Love always carries strong vibrations and sometimes even challenges. The feeling of being refreshed when hit by the sound of love can make us rush into a relationship without having time to look back at ourselves.
However, psychologists say that before making a decision to stick together, each person needs to spend time evaluating their emotions and the level of suitability for the other person.
Dr. Aria Campbell Danesh, a clinical psychologist (UK), has given four important questions to help people determine whether a new relationship is truly healthy and suitable.
1. Do I want to be loved in this way for the rest of my life?
Each person has their own language of love, formed from childhood experiences and previous relationships.
Therefore, when starting a new relationship, clearly defining how you want to be loved is the key.
If the way they express their feelings makes you feel safe and secure, it could be a good sign to go further.
2. Do I like my own version of myself when I'm with that person?
Every time we are with the person we love, they often evoke a unique aspect of us, a version that only those in the relationship can feel.
The most important thing is to ask yourself: Do I really like and feel comfortable with the person I become with? Clearly recognizing this version of yourself is a core factor that helps you determine the happiness and health of your current relationship.
3. Is that person in line with my image of my future partner?
Everyone has their own standards for companionship, from personality, communication to the ability to share emotions.
Psychologist Aria Campbell Danesh emphasizes that the important thing is not to find the perfect person, but to find the person who suits your most important standard, especially in terms of emotion.
4. Can we handle the challenge as a team?
In all relationships, differences and conflicts are inevitable. The important thing is not who wins, but whether the two are capable of working together as a team to solve the problem or not.
According to Dr. Aria, the mindset of lets face challenges together is the foundation of a lasting love.
These questions are not to make you doubt love, but to help you understand yourself, understand the other person and build a foundation for a healthy relationship.
Love should truly bring a sense of maturity, peace and companionship, not exchange or endurance.
