Potential threat that affects marital happiness
According to relationship counselor T Amandawiggs Johns (USA), while many people believe that conflict is the leading cause of broken marriages, the biggest threat is actually somewhere else.
The habit of being silent, hiding emotions and keeping a distance to "keep peace" is what is silently causing a rift in the relationship.
Ms. Amanda shared: "The moments when you suppress your true emotions, choose to stay silent instead of showing vulnerability, or just let the other person see a "positive" version, all seem like science, but are actually building an invisible wall between two people".
Avoiding facing real emotions makes couples gradually become unfamiliar to their own partner. Relationship consultant Amanda calls this a connection disconnection formula. Every time he avoids a difficult conversation, every time he protects himself from being hurt, it is a time to push the other person away.
The uncomfortable truth is that every time you protect yourself from others, you are actually creating distance between two people, says Ms. Amanda.
Solutions
Instead of keeping a distance to avoid collisions, Ms. Amanda encourages couples to accept each other's imperfections and build an emotionally safe space together.
Couples who are long-term together are not because they have never hurt each other, but because they choose to stay together, be honest and accept each other when they are together.
Signs of an emotional safe relationship
No more barriers: When both feel safe, they stop hiding, and the natural defense wall collapses.
deeper attachment: Trust promotes emotional and physical intimacy.
Natural connection: Relationship is no longer an obligation, but becomes a natural need for intimacy.
Accept reality: true love does not require perfection, but is where two imperfect people are allowed to be themselves.
