In many traditional families, being silent at home is considered a natural part of women. However, the reality of life today shows that when both husband and wife go to work and worry about the finances together, if the house is not shared, it will become the seed of fatigue and cracks.
Sharing family work is not a superficial thing. That is the simplest way to express responsibility, understanding and mutual respect in marriage.
The house is not divided evenly, the feelings are not lasting
According to Dr. John Gottman, a prominent marriage psychologist and co-founder of Gottman Institute (USA), couples who maintain a long-term marriage often have one thing in common: they consider housework as a shared responsibility, not an obligation of anyone. A feeling of supported in small daily matters creates emotional safety, the most important foundation of marriage, Mr. Gottman emphasized.
When a person has to carry almost all the housework, the accumulated fatigue will gradually turn into dissatisfaction. From the story of chopsticks, clothes, meals, it is easy to lead to arguments, a feeling of disrespect and distance in terms of affection.
On the contrary, cleaning, cooking, and taking care of children together not only helps reduce pressure but also creates more time for interaction. Those seemingly small moments are the "glue" that holds the family together.
Sharing the lesson of responsibility and equality in parents
Not only affecting husband and wife, the way of dividing housework also directly affects children. Children grow up in a family where parents share the fact that the family often forms a healthy concept of responsibility and gender.
Dr Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, an expert on family labor assignment at New York University (USA), said: "Children learn about family roles not through teaching, but through what they see every day". When children see both their father and mother sweeping the house, washing dishes, and taking care of relatives, they will understand that contributing to the family is a shared duty.
The division of work also helps members be more proactive, reducing the situation of " long-term work". Everyone knows their part, the family operates more gently, no one feels taken advantage of or sacrificed alone.
Sharing things at home does not mean dividing every minute, every task accurately. The important thing is the spirit of being ready to carry together, flexible according to circumstances. Sometimes one person is busier, the other person does more, as long as there is recognition and understanding.
Family is not a place for one to exhaust, but a place for everyone to support each other. And starting from the smallest thing: doing housework together.
