Talking to psychologist To Nhi A, Ms. B recounted her disagreement with her sister-in-law named Ngoc - who is 3 years older than her, has a stable job and comes from a well-off family. Although Ms. B has known her husband for 5 years, Ngoc's sister-in-law returned to her husband's house a year before.
Ms. B shared that her brother-in-law's job was unstable, while her sister-in-law was like a boss with a high income. As for Ms. B, her income is not as good as her sister-in-law. The difference in economic circumstances caused the sister-in-law to repeatedly show her attitude, not helping the family and often criticized sister-in-law B for not doing anything.
Ms. B's husband's family lives according to the model of a three-way street with her parents-in-law, two sons, two daughters-in-law and three young grandchildren. Although not too crowded, the living space still has to be shared - each family has one floor, sharing the kitchen and living room. Although there are few meetings due to different schedules, conflicts still arise frequently.
The climax was when the sister-in-law loudly slandered Ms. B for stealing a wedding ring, causing the whole family to suspect. A few days later, an acquaintance found the ring and blamed Ms. B. Although the truth was clarified, the trust wound was still intact.
Not only did her relationship with her sister-in-law break down, Ms. B also felt unfairly treated by her mother-in-law. One time when relatives gathered, her mother-in-law said thang th th th thorn: "My son is a talented student with a high salary, but he married a poor daughter-in-law and could not have a son."
In the family, the person who often chatted with her the most was Ngoc's brother-in-law. Ms. B's husband is busy with human resource management at a media company, paying little attention to family problems. Psychologist To Nhi A commented: "Never being attractive is a convincing reason, the important thing is whether they care or not".
The things Ms. B does for her husband's family from cooking, worrying and sharing in difficult times have never been recognized. "There were times when my mother-in-law cried, only I came to comfort her. I took my mother to shop, cook... but it seems that all those efforts were not appreciated," Ms. B choked up.
Psychologist To Nhi A affirmed: Sister-in-law relationship is a very sensitive type of family bond. Difficulties in age, circumstances, origin and life values are not clearly defined, any conflict will become a painful underground war. And if there is no common standards in a multi-generational family, peace is very difficult to maintain.
According to the female doctor, the problem does not come from her sister-in-law or mother-in-law but lies in the relationship between Ms. B and her husband, the indifference and lack of presence of her partner makes Ms. B feel lonely, even though they live together in the same house.
Ms. B expressed that she wanted to stay alone for the next year to avoid conflict but encountered opposition from her parents-in-law - considering it an act of rejecting her family. Psychologist To Nhi A advised: "If you don't have a strong belief in yourself, even when you are alone, you will still carry all that damage."
At the end of the program, Ms. B refused to turn on the lights because she didn't want to bother everyone in the family.
