In today's society, many couples fall into a state of fatigue not because of lack of love, but because they do not know how to balance the role of husband and wife and responsibility to family and children. When all priorities are put on one side, the remaining relationship is easily forgotten, leading to a silent but prolonged distance.
According to Psychology Today, one of the common reasons for marriage weakening is that couples let their roles as parents, children, or work completely overwhelm the marital relationship. When the two people no longer have time to chat, share, or connect emotions, marriage gradually becomes a compulsory cohabitation.
Harvard Health Publishing points out that couples who maintain balance tend to clearly separate roles: when they are parents, they raise their children together, but when they are husband and wife, they still have private space to nurture feelings. This helps reduce stress, limit conflicts and increase long-term cohesion.
A common mistake is to see personal sacrifice as mandatory in the family. According to The Gottman Institute, a person constantly putting their needs down to the bottom easily leads to a feeling of being underestimated, thereby forming silent resentment. Family is only truly sustainable when each member, especially husband and wife, is respected in terms of emotions and personal needs.
Balancing marriage and family does not require major changes. It could be the habit of spending time chatting every day, sharing housework together, agreeing on how to raise children and respecting each other's own boundaries. When both are aware that marriage is the foundation of the family, harmony will naturally be maintained.
Maintaining balance not only helps marriage become sustainable, but also creates a safe family environment, where each member feels loved and belongs.
