Age does not determine a sustainable marriage
In East Asian culture, many people still believe that "if you are old, you have to get married". But in reality, marriage is not a milestone that needs to be completed on time. The most important thing is inner maturity and the ability to shoulder the responsibility of a small family.
Dr. Hannah Miles - marriage psychologist at the University of Toronto ( Canada) - analyzed: "Sustainable marriage requires two people with communication skills, the ability to manage conflicts and a certain level of emotional stability. Many people in their 30s have not had them, but some people in their 24s are very steady."
This shows that the time to "age enough" for marriage cannot be measured by numbers. Getting married too early because of family pressure can easily lead to conflicts, and getting married too late because they are afraid that risks create emotional isolation. The most reasonable time is when each person understands themselves and truly wants to stay long-term.
Marry when both are ready
Marriage forms a team, not two individuals alone. Therefore, the ideal time to enter a common life is when both have the same orientation, same life value and the same desire to build a future.
Couples who are likely to agree on important issues, finances, children, lifestyle, often have a higher happiness rate after marriage, says Dr. Ethan Ramirez, a family relationship research specialist at the California Family Institute (USA).
An mature relationship also requires the ability to resolve conflicts without hurting each other. If the two still consider the fight a battle rather than a loss, instead of trying to find a common voice, perhaps the small family should not start.
More importantly, marriage is when we feel we want to accompany, want to protect and want to put the other person in our future. That was the moment when the heart no longer ran after social expectations, but truly wanted to "build a home" together.
