Psychologist Mai Viet Duc - Nhan Hoa Viet Psychotherapy and Counseling Center, believes that emotions are what make us love, and commitment is what helps us stay. The emotions may fade away, but if nurtured in kindness and understanding, it will be renewed many times in the marriage.
A mature and responsible marriage needs to be based on three core factors.
1. Sharing responsibility, instead of blaming
In marriage, conflict is inevitable. But what makes a relationship break down the fastest is not disagreement, but the habit of blaming.
When something happens, if each person only focuses on protecting their own views and pointing out the other person's mistakes, the dialogue can easily turn into a "court" without anyone winning.
2. Listen with your ears, but understand with your heart
Listening in marriage is not just a silent thing for the other person to say everything. That is the art of understanding the hidden behind words, emotions behind external manifestations.
Sometimes your partner just needs to say about the fatigue, not need you to analyze or propose a solution.
3. Know how to forgive
Forgiveness in marriage does not mean forgetting all mistakes, nor does it mean being willing to accept or ignoring all limits. Forgiveness is a proactive choice - to not keep the hurt forever, to pave the way for healing and to continue to love.
A lasting marriage does not consist in always being happy, but in being able to overcome unhappy times together - through maturity and choosing to stick together every day.
