Personal pressures and expectations before marriage
No longer seeing marriage as a mandatory milestone, many young people choose to postpone marriage because they believe that they are not ready in terms of finance, work and personal life. Behind the late marriage decision is the pressure to build a full and stable life before getting married.
Mr. Nguyen Van Nam (31 years old, Hanoi) said that although he is often urged by his family, he has not yet thought about getting married because there are still many goals not achieved.
I want to stabilize my finances first. If I don't take good care of myself, it's very difficult to think about taking care of my family," Mr. Nam shared.
According to Mr. Nam, the pressure comes not only from income but also from expectations about life after marriage.
I always think I have to have a stable job, have savings, and then think about long-term things. The more goals I set, the more pressure I feel and I don't dare to get married," Mr. Nam said.
Meanwhile, Ms. Tran Thu Trang (27 years old, Hanoi) believes that she still wants to prioritize personal experience and development before entering marriage.
I want to have more time for work, life experiences and personal development. If I get married too early, I'm afraid of having to put aside many personal plans to focus on my family," Ms. Trang shared.
Avoid perfectionism pressure when entering marriage
According to Master of Psychology Bui Thi Hai Yen - Founder and CEO of NHC Vietnam Human Psychology and Development System, the trend of late marriage clearly reflects changes in young people's thinking.
Many people set high standards such as having to be financially stable, mature enough, or achieve certain goals before getting married. This is a responsible thought, but if you are too perfectionist, it will become pressure," the expert said.
According to psychologists, when standards are set too high compared to actual conditions, young people are prone to falling into a state of always feeling not enough, thereby delaying marriage. Besides, the fear of losing freedom is also a noteworthy factor.
Many people think that getting married means having to shoulder responsibilities and limit personal desires," the expert shared.
However, experts emphasize that pre-marital preparation is necessary but needs to be appropriate to the circumstances and age.
If goals are set too high, marriage will become a burden instead of a positive journey," Ms. Bui Thi Hai Yen analyzed.
To have good preparation, everyone should build a clear plan for their future life, instead of waiting until it is perfect. Defining specific goals that match your abilities will help reduce pressure and create proactiveness.
In addition, when not ready, young people should frankly share their concerns with their families.
Open exchange will help parents understand and accompany, instead of creating unnecessary pressure," expert Bui Thi Hai Yen recommended.
