Ms. B shared that the story of marriage started with a meeting at work. After a period of getting to know each other, because of their personality and harmonious families, she and her husband decided to get married. The husband's family only has two sons, the younger brother has moved out to live separately, so after getting married, Ms. B returned to live with her husband's parents.
According to custom, the groom's family will bring 10 million VND to the bride's family. However, when preparing for the wedding, her mother-in-law frankly said: "Just give me 4 million VND", surprising Ms. B's family. Not wanting to get into a fight, she proactively told her biological parents: " well, let the groom's family take care of themselves." However, this concession made her mother-in-law think that she was easily bullied, starting a series of conflicts later.
On the wedding day, when opening the envelope, Ms. B's parents learned that the groom's family only gave them 4 million VND instead of 10 million VND as agreed. When her husband came back to ask for the reason, his mother-in-law gave him more than enough. Ms. B's family chose to remain silent because they were afraid to make a big deal out of it, but in her heart, Ms. B still felt disregarded. This is an disrespectful act. But at that time, I was pregnant, just hoping to be born into a family full of parents, so I had to ignore it to keep the air warm," she confided.
The incident before the wedding left a mark in the relationship between mother-in-law and bride. On the first day of her husband's house, Ms. B still woke up early to prepare rice and water, but when she accidentally called her mother-in-law "her", she expressed her dissatisfaction. She frankly recalled the story before the wedding: "Oh, you don't consider your child a daughter-in-law. She should remember that when she went to the market to buy a bunch of vegetables, she also had to give enough money to sell them. With all the money you have given for your wedding, why not have a daughter-in-law?". The response made her mother-in-law silent but could not erase the distance.
In the following days, conflicts over spending, eating and living habits continued to arise. The mother-in-law often checks each portion, from fish sauce, salt, electricity and water to food, leading to a tense family atmosphere.
Despite her frustration, Ms. B still hopes that one day her mother-in-law will realize her mistake in getting married and changing her way of doing things. "I hope you understand, if you work, you have to enjoy it, and your savings also need to be limited," she shared. Later, she learned to behave more skillfully, buying or spending all said it was revalued or said it was given to her mother-in-law to reassure her.
Thanks to the adjustment from both sides, the relationship gradually eased tensions. The mother-in-law no longer mentioned the issue of too much money, and Ms. B also accepted to save at a reasonable level.
Dr. To Nhi A believes that Ms. B's story is a clear demonstration of the importance of harmony in the mother-in-law - daughter-in-law relationship. "We should not focus on the matter of being more than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being less than being. When you know how to put family peace first, the conflict will gradually subside, she commented.
