According to the sharing of a female audience member sent to the program, her mother once saved 5 taels of gold after many years of hard work. In 2009, after quitting her job due to loss of working capacity, she received a subsidy of about 12 million VND and decided to switch to gold to hoard in case of illness or as a gift for her grandchild later.
Some time later, her son-in-law asked for help because he lacked a deposit when pooling capital to open a business. Because she trusted and loved her daughter, she lent 5 taels of gold to her son-in-law without making papers or specific agreements.
However, many years have passed, the son-in-law still hasn't mentioned paying off debts. Recently, when the mother wanted to get back the gold to prepare wedding gifts for her grandchild, the son-in-law said again: "In the old days, mother bought it for only 12 million, now if I pay 15 million, mother will make a profit. Consider it debt-free".
This answer made the mother speechless, and the family began to have conflicts. Her daughter spoke up, saying that such a way of paying was unreasonable, but the brother-in-law said that this was between him and his mother-in-law, and others should not interfere.
Commenting on the story, MC Ngo Nhu Quynh said that this is a fairly common situation in Vietnamese life. "Many families have a habit of hoarding gold. However, when borrowing gold and then returning it with money, it is often easy to have arguments, especially when gold prices have changed a lot over time," she said.
According to the female MC, in terms of reason, the son-in-law did not handle it satisfactorily because the initial loan was gold, so returning it with gold is reasonable and justified. However, she also acknowledged that this situation put the wife - that is, the mother's daughter - in a difficult position between her husband and family.
MC Phuong Uyen also agreed with her colleague on this point of view.
Meanwhile, Dr. To Nhi A assessed that the problem lies in attitude and behavior. She believes that the mother lending gold is entirely due to feelings, so the son-in-law needs to show respect and responsibility. If you have borrowed money in the family, publicizing the debt repayment plan is clearly necessary.
Before the question of how to resolve conflicts, Ngo Nhu Quynh said that mothers should proactively invite family members to sit down and talk frankly. According to her, clearly determining the debt first and then considering whether to lend or not will help avoid misunderstandings and maintain respect among members.
The story in the program shows that seemingly small financial problems can become the cause of family emotional rifts if not handled transparently.
