Appearing in the program "The Third Person", Ms. T (40 years old, living in Ho Chi Minh City) tells about the journey of breakup after many years of attachment to her husband, a dental doctor who studied in France, has his own clinic and is considered successful and calm.
According to her, the two met through friends' introductions. After 2 years of getting to know each other, they got married and had a daughter. Because she wanted to support her husband in developing his career, she decided to quit her private job to manage the clinic together.
However, the busy work cycle makes marital life gradually show distance. "There are days when I work until 8-9 pm before returning home, and he also often stays at the clinic until late at night," she shared.
The incident began when she discovered that her husband had a relationship beyond the limit with a young female assistant at the clinic. Initially, she tried to think that everything was just close to colleagues. But later on, abnormal signs made it impossible for her to continue to reassure herself.
I saw them have intimate gestures beyond the boundaries of colleagues and teachers and students," she recounted.
Although both families intervened many times, the husband also apologized and promised to end the extramarital relationship, but things did not change. After that, the two decided to separate for nearly 2 years to have time to look back on their marriage.
However, according to Ms. T, the period of separation became a period that made the relationship increasingly distant. Her husband continued to have intercourse with that woman, going for coffee, traveling and working separately.
The climax was when her daughter accidentally saw intimate images of her father and that woman in her phone. That moment made her understand that the marriage was irreparable.
I realized I couldn't hold on anymore," she choked up.
Listening to the story, director Le Hoang said: "Divorce is the most dangerous time of marriage. A man in that period often considers himself unmarried, while a woman does not think she has lost her husband.
The male director also gave a frank perspective on the psychology of the third person. According to him, if a man does not have an attraction, it is difficult to make others recklessly step into a complex relationship.
In addition, Le Hoang especially emphasized that women should not lose themselves after marriage or divorce.
Don't make your child's happiness your own happiness. One day your child will also have their own life," he shared.
He also believes that divorced women should have financial independence or a spiritual support to avoid falling into prolonged loneliness.
Closing the program, Ms. T's story made many viewers sympathize not only because of the shock of adultery, but also because of the journey of a woman learning to let go of a cold marriage to find peace for herself after many years of only knowing how to sacrifice for her family.
