1. When the wife is no longer just the mother of the children and a housewife
Many wives, after having children, accidentally transfer all their love and care to their children, then forget that their husbands also need to be loved and understood. Full meals, clean homes, and easy-going children seem to have replaced spiritual care, private moments of husband and wife, and a helping hand or understanding look.
The wife is busy taking care of her family, but sometimes forgets that her husband is also a "person in need of care".
Men sometimes don't need much, just a sentence "I'm hardworking", a little attention when they're quiet, a look that doesn't judge when they're weak and weak. But if that doesn't happen, they will withdraw, stay silent and leave even though they are still together.
2. When the wife becomes cold, consider affection as secondary
There are women who are gradually becoming excessive reasonable in marriage. They think that taking care of enough finances, taking good care of children, and not having an affair is fulfilling their responsibility as wives. They no longer want to share their feelings, no longer want to chat or sit together quietly.
They gradually lose patience with her husband's mistakes, easily get angry, feel cold and lose courage in the efforts of her partner. It is also a very painful " indifferent" type of person when you live with the same person but always feel lonely.
A couple is a relationship that needs to be cared for no less than their first love. If there are no more emotions, no more communication, it is no longer marriage, but only a form of cohabitation.
3. When the husband gradually gave up trying
No man can endure being considered redundant in his own house. Some people will choose to stay silent, some people will choose to stay outside more than at home, some people will find another place to feel listened to and respected.
The heartless wife sometimes does not realize that: a husband is no longer talking, no longer reacting, no longer angry. That was the time when he was no longer determined to save anything. And at that time, the gap between husband and wife was no longer just a few steps, but a deep abyss of emotions.
4. Marriage is a companionship, not a default
Having had love, but that does not mean that love will last forever if not nurtured. The wife cannot use the reason of being busy, pressured, children... to justify her husband's abandonment of his feelings. Just like a husband cannot use the burden of making a living as an excuse to ignore his wife and children.
Marriage cannot be a place with only responsibility but lacking warmth, only function but lacking presence. If the wife becomes heartless - no longer caring about her husband's feelings, no longer sharing her wishes, no longer asking questions or craving for intimacy - that is the early warning bell for a marriage that is gradually losing direction.
5. A good wife is a person who knows how to balance: loves her children but does not forget her husband, is good at housework but does not ignore their feelings
The kindness of a wife does not lie in how much housework she can do, how well she takes care of her children, but lies in how she keeps her husband from feeling lost. That is the woman who knows how to leave a small corner in her heart for the man who once moved her, knows how to sit down and talk when both are tired, knows how to hug her husband when there is no reason.
Husband is the place where wife stands when she is weak. But sometimes, the husband also needs a support and no one is more deserving than the wife who promised to be with them for the rest of their lives.
The husband was heartless and hurt his wife. The wife's indifference caused the husband to give up. The fact that both of them refused to review themselves contributed to bringing their love to the brink of death.
Marriage does not require a perfect person, as long as the two know how to work hard for each other. If you are a wife, give a little attention to your partner. Because sometimes, saving a marriage is not a big deal, but just a timely attention, a timely hug, an unintentional look.
