Calling the program, Ms. P shared about the troubles she was facing with her mother-in-law. Ms. P said that her mother-in-law had two children, but her husband - Mr. K did not care about her mother's assets. Suddenly one day, her mother-in-law expressed her desire to sell her and her husband a small garden behind the house.
However, she set a condition for Mr. K to buy a car for his younger sister and mother in exchange for him receiving the garden from his mother. Mr. K agreed, and at the same time transferred the garden and bought him a motorbike.
However, just a month later, Ms. P's mother-in-law called to report that the TV was broken and that her nephew was preparing to attend university. After listening, Ms. P immediately replied: "If I have enough money for that garden, I will calculate and return it to my mother so that she can take care of it more easily". So the whole family of my husband said that I was a daughter-in-law who calculated every little thing for the family, and no family members calculated that way. Ms. P said she was confused when her mother-in-law and her husband's family thought that she was "tiny" with her family.
After listening to the story, Meritorious Artist Van Khanh shared her perspective: The husbands family may feel that the brides daughter was too shy because she handled the problem too frankly, even though she did not have to downplay the bride. Maybe they hope she will be a little more generous and tolerant. In my opinion, if she shared this issue delicately and had a little more calculation in her way of talking, it would have avoided the situation where both sides were at a loss.
Assuming that in Ms. P's case, artist Van Khanh said that she would not react directly, because for the upper class, conflicts should be avoided because they would easily hurt each other.
According to artist Van Khanh, all problems need to be discussed in a slow and skillful way to be able to be resolved appropriately.
Continuing the program, Mrs. X said that she felt angry and uncomfortable living with her son and daughter-in-law, even though when they got married, she wanted the children to move out alone. After 6 months of living together, her daughter-in-law and son have not contributed any living expenses.
Meritorious Artist Van Khanh found that the mother-in-law in the story has a progressive and civilized mindset when letting her children decide whether to live together or alone. However, the problem lies in the lack of rules and responsibilities for children. Talking about her daughter-in-law, the female artist felt confused by the act of shopping for personal items without contributing to the family's general expenses.
When asked if the discomfort of her mother-in-law was reasonable, Meritorious Artist Van Khanh affirmed that it was completely reasonable. The female artist said that if she put herself in the position of a mother-in-law, she would feel hurt because her children chose to stay not out of love but for personal gain.
In this case, the female singer suggested that her mother-in-law should talk directly to her children: For example, this is my mothers house, the children are living there. They can present their financial difficulties and current salaries for us to discuss. When they are old, their children should have 100% taken care of the housework. But if the children are having trouble, mothers are willing to share, depending on the children's economic conditions and their abilities. I have accumulated a little, but I can't take care of everything."
According to the female artist, this is a way for both sides to share responsibilities and find a suitable solution and be transparent about each other's finances.
