In the afternoon, while waiting for her child to finish school in front of the gate of an inter-level school in Hoa Binh ward, Ms. Nguyen Thi Yen (character's name has been changed, 39 years old, residing in Hoa Binh ward, Phu Tho province) looks at the long line of vehicles with a heavy heart.
From the outside, she is a role model that makes many people dream of a mountainous city with a kind husband, a rich family, and children with full education.
But behind that rich appearance, she always feels small and lost.
Her husband is over 40 years old, has a stable job, holding a management position in a subsidiary of the family business system.
However, almost all important decisions have to follow your parents. Despite being a manager, the person who made the final decision was still her father-in-law.
"The application is like a matter of which school your child is studying in. I thought that simply in this mountainous city, public schools have many good schools, quality teachers, and people with heart and vision, but grandparents and grandfathers and grandfathers must send children to inter-level schools because there are international teachers and teaching programs according to international standards.
When I spoke to my husband, he only told them to worry about the money so that they could decide," Ms. Yen sadly said.
When she became a daughter-in-law, she never lacked material things. But that fullness comes with a feeling of suffocation. Everything was arranged and decided, to the point that she no longer had the right to choose, even the very small things in her daily life.
She sadly said: "I get to worry about everything, but I can't decide my own life. My husband's dependence on my family made me increasingly tired. I don't confront or argue, because speaking doesn't change anything".
Once she searched social media and accidentally saw a picture of her ex-lover when she was a student. He was not rich, had no family support, but he and his wife worked together and raised their children together. A simple meal, a peaceful smile.
"I feel sorry, they are not as prolific as me, but they have a voice in their lives," she admitted.
Her biggest concern is her daughter's future. She was afraid that her child would later enter a marriage that was full of material things, but lacked freedom and respect.
In modern life, many people share that they have experienced loneliness right in the place that should have been their support. This story is not unique to anyone, it is the sighing of family relationships being eroded by silence, misunderstanding and overly high expectations.
Family psychologist Dr. tempor tempor tempor temporary, University of Melbourne, analyzed: Loness in the family comes when each person is no longer considered as themselves, but is placed in a framework of excessive expectations. The feeling of not being understood makes people take it back.
In fact, love sometimes requires living according to parents' wishes, being strong, being talented, and sacrificing.
Those things easily turn into pressure, making even adults exhausted. When each person only talks about what they want without listening to what others need, the gap in affection silently widenes.
