Recently, school violence incidents have occurred continuously in many localities such as: A male student was stabbed by a friend and pushed into a lake; An 8th grade female student was beaten by a group in Ho Chi Minh City; A 9th grade male student was beaten by a friend at another school... which have made the public worried.
Not only students and teachers but especially parents are also concerned: How to make their children study in a safe and healthy environment, and more importantly, be equipped with enough skills to respond and control emotions in school relationships.
Sharing with Lao Dong reporter, Ms. Chu Thi Chinh - a parent with a child studying in grade 11 at a high school in Dong Anh commune (Hanoi) - said that she is very interested in this issue.
Ms. Chinh said that after each unfortunate incident that happened, she not only thinks about the behavior of the students, but also about the gap between parents and children in today's life.
"As a parent, I myself am sometimes busy taking care of my children's work, leaving all of their children's schoolwork to teachers, forgetting that their children are at a sensitive age, easily affected by friends and the environment around them. Therefore, parents need to spend time sitting down, talking with their children, listening to their children tell stories in class, at school to better understand what they are going through" - Ms. Chinh shared.
According to her, accompanying her children is not only about controlling or teaching, but also the process of identifying and resolving emotions with them. For students with hot-tempered and easily agitated personalities, parents need to pay more attention, helping their children understand that controlling emotions is not weakness but courage.
"If parents notice that their children are easily irritable and react strongly to situations, learn to stay calm with them. We can let our children participate in life skills classes and extracurricular activities, so that they know how to look at the problem from the perspective of others, be more sympathetic and understanding" - Ms. Chinh added.
Sharing the same concern, Ms. Tran Ha - a parent whose child is studying in grade 7 at a secondary school in Nghia Do ward (Hanoi) - said that the cause of school violence comes not only from students, but also from the way of education in the family, school and the impact of society today.
"To reduce school violence, the family needs to play the first and most important role. Parents must spend time caring, listening to their children, teaching them to respect, love and control their emotions. When parents are gentle, children will learn to resolve conflicts with words instead of violence" - Ms. Ha expressed.
Ms. Ha added that parents also need to coordinate closely with the school to grasp the psychology and behavior of their children, avoid letting them be isolated or suddenly decide. In addition, society also needs to create a healthier environment, limit online violence, and spread human values and love for people.
From the perspective of a teacher, Ms. Nguyen Thien Huong - Vice Principal of Mai Lam Secondary School (Dong Anh Commune, Hanoi) - emphasized that school violence is always an issue of special concern to teachers and schools.
According to Ms. Huong, schools need to play a more proactive role in prevention. She believes that schools should organize thematic activities, invite psychological speakers and education experts to share, so that students can listen and feel practical lessons.
"In particular, each school should have a regular school psychological counseling committee, where students can go when they need to confide and share. The family also needs to closely accompany the school in understanding the psychology of students, thereby promptly preventing acts of school violence" - she emphasized.
Ms. Huong added that the school can consider coordinating with local police forces to organize patrols around the school area. "This helps prevent unfortunate incidents, while creating a safe mentality, deterring and educating students" - Ms. Huong shared.
