Mr. Pham Van Hung, an electricity worker in Thanh Hoa City, has a son in grade 3. Working hard and spending little time at home, but every night, Mr. Hung spends a few minutes talking to his child. Not only did he ask his child how he was doing in school, he also told him about situations at work - when he was misunderstood by customers, when he had to climb an electric pole in the rain, or when he stopped the car to help the person in an accident.
I dont teach you to be successful, but teach you not to be mean. As a man, you must dare to live responsibly, dare to apologize, dare to defend your right, even in small matter" - Mr. Hung said.
1. dare to say - dare to express
Many boys are taught that: boys must be quiet, must "man up", and must hide their emotions. But in fact, a child who knows how to say what he thinks is a child who is developing correctly.
Instead of forcing your child to stay silent to "report", parents should encourage them to share - tell stories every night, speak in front of the class, and ask questions when they do not understand. That is the foundation for me to know how to speak up when I see injustice in the future, and how to protect myself and others.
2. Confidence - no arrogance
Confidence is what makes a man unique, but confidence must be nurtured by love, not striving.
When your child fails, instead of scolding, say: Its okay, parents still trust you. A boy who is supported by that confidence will not fall behind a weakness, not falter because of a few criticisms. Children will learn that: they can stumble, but that does not mean they lose their value.
3. Having a climate - no need to show off
A brave man is not a noisy person, but someone who knows what to say, what to keep quiet, knows how to reject wrongdoings and uphold the value of life.
Parents should teach their children to apologize, thank, keep their promises and not chase for compliments. A child with charisma will dare to stand firm even when alone, and does not need crowds to assert themselves.
4. Courage - not recklessness
A child who is overly protected will become a weak man. Courage is not not not not not knowing fear, but being afraid but still daring to face it, daring to take responsibility.
Let your child try and stumble: practice cycling, climbing mountains, washing dishes, giving mixed opinions. Each experience is one time the child crosses their own limits. And then, I will understand: courage is not a given, but a knowing face and not running away.
5. Having the will to "know how to pursue what you choose"
Parents do not need a son to be a comprehensive good boy, but let's teach him to do the job well that he has chosen. Will training does not lie in big things, but starts with the smallest things: taking care of the children every day, folding the blanket neatly every morning, completing the exercise on time.
Every time you want to give up, tell you about the journey of those who are persistent, including your parents - so that you understand that success does not come from talent, but from the will to persevere and not retreat.
6. Knowing responsibility - not blaming
Children often blame when scolded. But children learn a sense of responsibility not from advice, but from the way adults live every day.
When pouring water, clean it yourself. If I do wrong, I apologize. If you want to, you have to do it. Parents should not blame their children when things are not as expected because if parents always find someone to blame, children will also learn that.
Responsibility is not a burden, but an honor for a man Mr. Hung told his daughter, when she broke the cup and did not dare to accept it.
Raising a son is not for competition, not for superiority. The ultimate goal is: to make your child become a good man, know how to live a correct life, live responsibly and usefully for the community.
