In fact, there is a hidden fear in each person, like a guest without an invitation but sitting in a soulful living room. The fear of being abandoned and forgotten. It is not noisy, it is not screaming, it just sit there quietly, then whisper to your ear reminding you that the world may one day... forget your existence.
And the more you are afraid of being forgotten, the more strange you are. You post a status line, then sit there and watch who is giving up; or send a greeting message to each other, just for fear that others will forget your face. You appear at gatherings even though you only want to lie on the sofa. All as to affirm: I am still alive, existing in this turbulent world.
But in fact, the fear of abandonment does not come from others. It arises from a small corner of you when you forget to take care of yourself, forget to love yourself, forget to wonder if you are fine today. Then give all the right to determine your own value to the eyes of outsiders. If they miss you, you find yourself important. If they are busy, you immediately reason and speculate.
That worry, when you look closely, is no different from a shadow: The more you run, the longer it is, the longer it is and the more uncertain it is. If you stop, sit down on a wooden chair and breathe, it will slow down. The ball doesn't know how to abandon you, only you threaten yourself with its darkness.
There are people who turn fear of being forgotten into motivation. They try to do something memorable like writing a book, opening a restaurant, or at least planting a tree. But there are also people who choose to be more alone: to be a good person, a person to be present at the right time. Famousness is fading away easily, but warmth is aging. Sometimes just one evening sitting next to someone sad is enough to make you remember in the most lasting way.
People remember them because you have made them happy, or have experienced memorable moments with them. Human memory does not operate logically, but by sound. To be remembered, sometimes just live like a cute sound, no need to scream.
And if one day you are still forgotten? That's okay. Life is always rotated as quickly as the wind, everyone sometimes falls out of the minds of others. Sometimes it is a relief, you don't have to play any more roles, don't have to prove yourself useful, don't have to worry about being invisible or tangible.
Sometimes, being forgotten is an opportunity for you to remember yourself.
