I tried to find the answer to the above question while sitting at a coffee shop with my sister. The girl seemed desperate, her voice was as if sinking in her throat and her tears were like a burst of tears. She said: "My boyfriend is actually very bad, at least bad compared to your demands and your love. I always need him by my side so he finds every way to create distance such as being busy with work, going on business trips. The more you take care of him, the colder he becomes. So where are you wrong?".
I myself was once "afforded" to have a girlfriend say directly (after a few years of dating): "You are the man who treats me the worst. But until now, he is still the man I love the most". Of course, that is not a "flirting" statement because we still go our separate ways, peace with the happiness we have. And to be honest, I don't know how "bad" I am.
When they do not know what true love is, people easily trade everything for something unattractive, but the nature is completely opposite and makes them increasingly exhausted in the delusions of love they have built in their own minds.
The reason we seek love in others regardlessly and blindly is because we are lacking love for ourselves. And they are just an example that reflects just the way we are treating ourselves. So if you have tried your best, regardless of everything, even betrayed and rejected yourself to get the love of others but what you receive is only hurt and suffering, then perhaps it is time for you to find out what true love is. Sit down seriously and ask yourself,
Are you treating yourself the way you want to be treated? Do you know how to set a clear line with those around you to protect yourself? Do you accept, listen, cling to emotions and invest time in making your life better?
Because if you know how to love yourself, you will not let others decide your value and happiness. That means you won't feel lost all of them when they are no longer choosing to be present in your life.
If you focus on cultivating and developing yourself, you will gradually have enough intelligence to respect your journey, thereby making it easier to respect the journey of others. You will gently let them go because you know that each person's destination is different, and accept the obvious fact that one of them will have to change path.
A person who knows how to cherish his time and energy will not let someone touch him if that person behaves badly, don't mention asking for love from that person. Or betraying yourself to get a presence does not make you happy or better. Or more briefly, let's not stick to what is really unworthful.
