She began: Forgiveness is close to tolerance, a beautiful concept. But in this modern society, is forgiveness always the right thing to do? I think that, depending on the situation, we should make different decisions. For example, if it is just a small conflict in life, like a husband and wife arguing about work, children, or differences in thinking, then it can be reconciled.
But if it is betrayal, adultery, or even the appearance of a “third person” that destroys family happiness, then I don’t think forgiveness is the solution. Betrayal is unacceptable. It is like a big crack in a solid wall, no matter how hard you try to patch it up, that crack will always be there, reminding you of past suffering.
The architect nodded: I agree with you about the seriousness of the problem of adultery. But I think that forgiveness is not simply about ignoring the mistakes of others, but also a process of healing for yourself. When we forgive, we are freeing ourselves from the burden of resentment, so that our souls can be at peace. Moreover, men by nature like to conquer, like to show off their strength, so they often fall easily and sometimes have no way back. She disagreed: Saying that is just an excuse, everyone gives this or that reason, the nature is still greedy, selfish and chasing after one's own desires.
He sighed: Everyone makes mistakes. What matters is whether they are willing to change and correct their mistakes. If they truly regret and want to rebuild the relationship, then why don't we give them a chance?
She paused for a moment, then continued: Forgiveness is a long journey that requires courage, tolerance, and trust. There is no one-size-fits-all formula. Sometimes forgiveness is liberating; sometimes not forgiving is a way to protect yourself.
The sun was already shining brightly in the middle of a winter noon. He invited her: Okay, I missed our lunch appointment last time. Now let's go eat congee offal. This place is incredibly delicious!
