The girl in the blue dress next to her smiled and said that her boyfriend often “complained” to her about the things that needed to be upgraded, from his old sneakers to his slow old laptop. She knew that he was just an office worker with a limited salary, while she was a businesswoman, making money more easily. If the gifts made her boyfriend happy, she didn’t mind spending them and she didn’t feel like she was being taken advantage of. “If he didn’t say anything, I would have bought them for him,” she added, her eyes full of understanding.
The girl in the pink dress believes that women should do everything voluntarily, and being manipulated or taken advantage of is unacceptable. The more exciting story of the girl in the blue dress is about a friend of hers who has a one-sided love for a guy. Because she wants to win his heart, she voluntarily does everything, pleases him from A to Z. But in the end, when her feelings are not reciprocated, she turns around and blames herself for being taken advantage of.
The girl in the blue dress continued: The line between voluntary and exploitation is sometimes just a matter of how we perceive it. A gift, an action, whether voluntary or exploited, becomes meaningless if the giver has a calculation in his heart. Sometimes, we give because of love, because we want others to be happy, but deep down we still expect a response. Sometimes, we receive, but feel guilty, as if we owe an emotional debt. And there are also times when we are exploited without even knowing it, until it is too late. A gift can be an expression of sincere love, but it can also be a tool for manipulation. A refusal can be hurtful, but it can also be a way to protect ourselves.
In the end, in my opinion, if you give, don't regret it, and if you regret it, don't give!
