But this time is different. Children have the right to be listened to, expressed, and have their emotions respected. The attacks were replaced with explanations and debates. Teaching children is no longer a matter of forced choice, but an accompaniment for them to grow up in their own way - firmly and confidently.
However, respect does not mean complacency. Children still need boundaries, still need to be reminded to distinguish between right and wrong. A child cannot grow up strongly without strict discipline. But that severity must come from love, from the desire for the child to be better, not from the frustration of adults.
Some people teach their children with gentleness, some with a determined outlook. Each family has its own way, as long as it always remembers: Teach your children for them, not for yourself. Scolding your child because he is not right, not because he makes his parents lose their sight. Scolding your child to let him correct his mistakes, not to satisfy his angry emotions.
You once saw a father scolding his child in the supermarket for dropping a bottle of milk. The child bowed his head, his eyes confused. Not because of your fault, but because you made your father upset. At that time, you suddenly think: If you blame your child just for being angry, it is anger, not for teaching.
Teaching children for them is difficult to endure, even though they are upset in their hearts. It is an explanation to explain a seemingly simple thing. It is about accepting that your child may be wrong, may be slower than his friends, but it's okay - because you are his child. No need to be anyone else, no need to carry the unfinished dreams of parents.
We should not raise children to repay the past debt, nor should we expect them to live as we want. We raise our children so that they know how to live to be a human being - know how to love, know how to take responsibility, know how to stand up after falling. And that cannot be done if parents only teach with whiplash or anger.
Teaching children is a long journey and sometimes tiring. But if one day your child grows up, lives properly, knows how to love and take responsibility, and then comes back and says: "Thank you for being so strict but still loving me", then you know, you have taught me correctly.
