Peace in hand, loneliness in heart
When deciding to marry a man nearly 20 years older than her, Ms. Hong Hanh (Nam Tu Liem, Hanoi) believes that she has made the right choice. That mature and caring husband gives her a sense of security - something that youthful love affairs have never given her.
In the early days of her marriage, Hong Hanh's life was as peaceful as a peaceful river.
However, as the cycle of life swept away, she gradually felt the gap between generations widening. Her husband is no longer healthy enough to travel long distances with her, and cannot keep up with exciting stories about work or friends.
The meals gradually received laughter, the common plans were put aside, and in her heart, a quiet loneliness grew.
"I have a husband by my side, but sometimes I feel lonely in my own world," Ms. Hanh sighed.
Similarly, Ms. Minh Anh (Ba Dinh, Hanoi) also found a gentle sky when she married her husband who was 17 years older than her. With work stories and confidences, she no longer easily shares with her husband because of differences in perspective.
"He loves me, but sometimes he is not patient enough to understand the impatience and excitement that is very typical of youth," Ms. Minh Anh confided.
Need to find a common voice in living values
According to Dr. Pham Thi Thuy - lecturer at the Regional II Academy of Politics, age-related love is no longer a rare thing today.
As traditional standards of age gap are gradually easing, people seek more harmony in emotions than numbers.
"The compensation for experience and maturity can create initial strong appeal. But over time, differences in lifestyle, value system and thinking will gradually revealed, making couples easily lose the same interest as in their first days of love," the expert commented.
According to Dr. Pham Thi Thuy, to maintain a sustainable age-ated marriage, couples need to build a relationship on core foundations such as: Love must be continuously nurtured with daily care, care and sharing; Respect for each other, know how to accept differences instead of expecting each other to change;...
''In addition, finding a common voice in living values such as raising children and future orientation also plays an important role. And finally, both of them need to pay attention to their health care, because the age gap will lead to inevitable physical differences'', Dr. Pham Thi Thuy said.
