What is mutual dependence?
According to Dr Divya Shree KR, a psychologist at Aster CMI Hospital, Bangalore (India), mutual dependence occurs when a person becomes overly dependent on the other person's emotions, needs or problems and both gradually form an unbalanced mold. One side can always try to fix, please or take care of the other even when it affects you, while the other side becomes dependent and not responsible for their actions.
Over time, this creates imbalances, stress, and emotional burnout, while reducing both of their confidence and ability to develop independently.
Signs of recognizing a relationship of dependence
Dr Divya Shree KR says that a romantic relationship that depends on each other often comes with the following signs:
Always try to fix or please the other person.
Ignoring personal needs or feeling guilty about setting limits.
Too relying on attention, reassurance or continuous support from the other person.
Both sides are afraid of loneliness or abandonment.
Controversy often comes from small issues related to a feeling of disrespect or being controlled.
Lack of healthy boundaries, personal space, opinions or emotions are often overlooked.
One or both give up their interests, friends or personal goals to maintain a relationship.
Is mutual dependence harmful?
Psychologist Divya Shree KR emphasizes: Over-reliance can harm a romantic relationship. When one side always gives and the other side always receives, the long-term imbalance will lead to stress, disappointment, anger and emotional exhaustion.
Long-term consequences may include:
Reduced personal growth and confidence.
Difficulty making independent decisions.
Increased anxiety, stress, and guilt.
Risk of depression or emotional exhaustion.
How to handle mutual dependence
To maintain a healthy relationship and protect mental health, experts recommend:
Establish a healthy boundary: Respect each person's personal needs and space.
Clear communication: Discuss emotions and desires without blaming or judging.
Find professional support: Treatment or marriage counseling helps reshape a balanced and lasting relationship.
