At the age of 30, singer Le Thu Uyen has a stable career and a promising career path, but she surprised many people when she shared that she is "afraid of love".
Thu Uyen said that her mother is her companion and a solid support in her life. Growing up in a family of three siblings, she has been her mother's companion since she was young, while her older brother and younger brother went to school far away. This created a special bond between mother and daughter.
When thinking about getting married, Thu Uyen always worried that no one would be there to take care of her mother and share with her. She emotionally shared: "My mother once said that if I got married, she probably wouldn't come to the wedding but would hide somewhere."
Although Ms. Lien always wanted her daughter to find happiness and a complete family, she worried that if her daughter left, she would feel lonely. The thought of her daughter having to face married life on her own made her even more anxious. When Thu Uyen's brother was getting married, her mother tossed and turned every night, crying because she felt sorry for her son who had begun to leave her arms.
People's Artist Hong Van commented that every mother has to go through two most difficult stages in life: when her daughter gets married and when she has her own family. This is the time when the child has to leave her mother's arms to become independent, but that is what makes the mother worried.
Although the worries are still there, Thu Uyen gradually realizes that happiness does not only depend on circumstances or other people but also on her own choices and decisions. However, Ms. Lien's worries still cannot be let go. Thu Uyen shared a memorable memory when she filmed a MV in Sa Pa, transforming into a woman holding a small child and chopping wood. Her mother watched and shed tears, worried that her daughter would have to endure difficulties when getting married. Her mother shared: "Every time I encourage my daughter to get married, I feel even sadder."
Psychologist Dr. To Nhi A, lecturer at the Central Pedagogical College in Ho Chi Minh City, commented that the overly close relationship between her mother and Thu Uyen sometimes becomes a barrier, preventing Thu Uyen from realizing the need to build her own life.
Mrs. Lien is also always worried when Thu Uyen goes on a long tour. She confided: “Every time my child says she is going on a long tour, even if I am in pain, I still try to go with her. If I stay at home, I can’t sleep, I keep thinking about whether she will be okay on the road, whether she will meet anyone good.”
Thu Uyen, with her modern thinking, has conflicts in her heart. She is stuck between her mother’s expectations and her insecurities about love, which has made her unable to decide whether to get married or not. Witnessing the broken marriages of her relatives and friends, she no longer believes in the so-called “rosy color of love”. “Seeing people happy, I also want to get married, but when I see them getting divorced, I am afraid,” she shared.
Through the story of mother and daughter Nguyen Thi Lien and singer Le Thu Uyen, To Nhi A also sends a profound message: "Do not take other people's happiness as your own and never assume that you will be as unhappy as them because of other people's unhappiness."
