Ms. Hanh recounted that for 15 years of living together, she never thought she would have to question her own marriage one day.
Her husband works in a state agency, earning about 20 million VND per month. She does business, earning in the last 1-2 years about 100-120 million VND/month. Although the income of the two people is different, she believes that the most important thing is still for both of them to take care of the family together.
The couple has 3 children. In daily life, she still considers her husband to be a person who loves his wife, loves children, takes care of children and helps with housework.
After many years of saving, the two bought a piece of land in both's name, had a car in her name and were building a house in their hometown. Most of the construction costs of the house were borne by her.
But for Ms. Hanh, those things are not as important as the trust she has placed in her husband. Everything changed when she learned that her husband went to karaoke with colleagues, in a place with a waitress serving.
She affirmed that this is the first time in 15 years she has known her husband participating in such a fun. She did not say her husband cheated, nor did she think he did anything beyond the limit with the female attendant.
But what made her sad was that the incident happened on the same day as one of her children had a high fever. While she was at home taking care of her children, knowing her husband went to karaoke, she felt disappointed.
Perhaps for others, a karaoke session with colleagues is not too big a matter. But for Ms. Hanh, what hurts her is the feeling that she is at home taking care of her child, and her husband is in a place that she never thought he would come to before. She began to wonder if she trusted her husband too much.
According to her sharing, she is a sentimental but also rational person. In fact, she gives all her faith, love and property to her husband, to her family. When she learned about it, Ms. Hanh really wanted to divorce.
Ms. Hanh admitted that she herself is not sure whether the divorce decision at this time was the right choice or just a reaction when she was hurt.
Because if they divorced, behind that decision were not just the two spouses. It was also 15 years of living together, 3 children, the assets they built together and a husband she once trusted.
What you probably need is not just to know what your husband did at the karaoke session that day. You want to know where the boundaries in your marriage lie and whether you and your husband are looking in the same direction or not.
If this is really just a trip with a colleague, the two may need a frank conversation about things each person feels suitable or unacceptable in marriage.
As for Ms. Hanh, before making a decision related to the whole family, she still needs time to calm down. After 15 years, what makes her heartbroken is not necessarily a karaoke session. It is the feeling that the trust she has placed in her husband for many years suddenly is no longer as intact as before.
