Proactiveness and comprehensive self-reliance are the "lifebuoys" that help women have enough confidence and steadfastness to protect themselves and move forward after a broken marriage.
There are stories of property disputes and custody of children that can make divorced women fall into a state of fatigue, stress and even mental disappointment, not knowing where to start again.
Having fallen into a deadlock when encountering family upheavals, Ms. Tran Phuong Anh (39 years old, Ho Chi Minh City) shared: "Most women are passive when upheavals occur because they are too familiar with putting their stability in their husbands. When that support is lost, they are not only emotionally disappointed but also confused in arranging their lives, from income to protecting legal rights for themselves and their children.
Ms. Phuong Anh believes that, from her own real stories, women's passivity raises many concerns. To avoid falling into a risky situation, women need to build a methodical "strategy" of autonomy in both thinking and action.
Learn to be proactive and independent in thinking
Having gone through storms in married life, Ms. Pham Thu Hanh (40 years old, Hanoi) expressed her frank opinion that: "As soon as you start a relationship, always learn to be proactive and independent in thinking, not to rely on anyone". According to Ms. Hanh, living with a proactive attitude is not about doubt or lack of trust in the other person, but about responsibility to your own life.
Maintaining independence in thinking, work and social relationships will help women not be passive in the face of unexpected upheavals of fate.
Financial and emotional autonomy
Economics is also the key to determining the position and freedom of women when stepping out of marriage. Not completely dependent on your husband's finances, have a stable source of income and personal savings.
Assessing more deeply the economic burden and responsibility of raising children after divorce, Ms. Nguyen Thu Van, 38 years old, working in media in Hanoi, emphasized that mothers need to have a long-term vision and be responsible, not only in mastering personal financial resources but also in ensuring the safest and most stable living environment for their children in the face of all upheavals.
Agreeing with this view, Ms. Nguyen Thi Chi (42 years old, Hung Yen) believes that the core of self-reliance is self-healing ability and emotional stability: "When conflicts erupt, calmness, understanding of the law and the ability to control emotions will help women protect themselves and their children in the safest and most civilized way.
According to Ms. Chi, ending a marriage is not a tragedy if a woman has enough self-reliance. Financial self-reliance to stand firm against storms, psychological self-reliance not to nurture hatred, that is the most solid lifebuoy to help women confidently step through breakdowns and create a new peaceful chapter for themselves.
