The 9x generation faces pressure of "being urged to love, urged to marry
Entering the age of over 30, many women of the 9x generation who have not yet stabilized their personal lives have to face a familiar pressure called marriage.
No longer gentle questions, according to a survey by reporters, many women shared that they often receive questions such as "when will you get married", "don't be too picky" or "have you loved anyone yet".
These questions appear in rapid succession with increasing numbers in family, relative meetings, and even in gatherings with friends.
Sharing with reporters, Ms. Minh Anh (32 years old, Hanoi) said: "I have a stable job and am focusing on my career, but every time I go home, I am asked about my husband and children. There are times when I feel very tired, as if my life is judged only by marriage.
Similarly, Ms. Hoang Lan (34 years old) also said: ''Most of my friends are married, every time we meet, the conversation revolves around my husband and children. Sometimes I feel isolated from social relationships. I don't hate getting married, but I just feel that I am not ready.''
These pressures come not only from the family but also from social perceptions, when marriage is still considered an important "milestone" for each woman.
How to overcome pressure when being urged to marry
Psychologist Mai Viet Duc - Nhan Hoa Viet Psychological Counseling and Therapy Center - believes that marriage in many cultures is still considered a mandatory milestone in life. When friends around gradually get married, while family and relatives constantly inquire, young people easily develop a feeling of being left behind.
''This may make each woman - especially the 9x generation - gradually doubt personal values, even afraid of being judged if they are not married, even if they are not ready in their hearts or have not found a suitable person,'' expert Mai Viet Duc analyzed.
According to experts, to reduce pressure, young people need to change their perspective on success and happiness in life.
Success should not be measured by having a husband and wife, but each individual should live true to their own values and happiness," Mr. Duc emphasized.
Besides, it is necessary to identify and remove misconceptions such as thinking that "single" is failure or "overage" is worthless. These are social prejudices that can put invisible pressure on young people and make hasty decisions.
Every young person should focus on self-development, from learning and experiencing to expanding their worldview. A confident, independent and happy person will build their own attraction, instead of being dominated by social standards," the expert recommended.
Building a network of friends with the same aspirations also helps young people feel accompanied and understood, reducing feelings of loneliness on their journey.
''Most importantly, remember that marrying the right person at the right time will be much more precious than marrying just because of the pressure to be at the right age,'' expert Mai Viet Duc emphasized.
