Headache from returning wedding gold
Gold prices are currently many times higher than in previous years, causing many young families to fall into a difficult situation when it's their turn to "return gold for weddings".
Mr. Hoang Minh (30 years old, Hanoi) said that before, his best friend went for 2 taels of gold, now if the quantity is kept the same, the value of the money has increased significantly, not enough financial resources to respond to the offering. However, if you don't go for gold, you are worried about losing your heart.
I am very headache because I have to return gold to my best friend at the wedding at the beginning of next year. At the time I got married, gold was only nearly 7 million VND per chi, currently it has more than doubled. If I go exactly 2 chi, the cost increases quite a lot compared to the current capacity; but if I go less, I feel guilty," Mr. Hoang Minh shared.
Meanwhile, Ms. Lan Huong (28 years old, Ho Chi Minh City) also fell into a more tense situation when the relationship between the two families was close relatives, often seeing each other.
My parents-in-law think that in the past, our family received enough gold, but now it's our turn to pay correctly, we should not compare whether gold prices have increased or decreased. If we pay less, it will be easily considered a calculation," Ms. Lan Huong shared.
The pressure is even greater when the couple is burdened with many expenses, from house money, raising young children to monthly living expenses.
Plan to harmonize affection and financial capacity
Talking to Lao Dong Newspaper, Mr. Tran Pham Hung Quy - Head of Business Department of FIDT Investment and Asset Management Consulting Joint Stock Company - said that "gold for gold" needs to be seen flexibly, putting emotional factors and actual circumstances first.
The first option is to travel the converted amount equal to or higher than the value of gold received at the previous time. This approach helps maintain fairness in value, while reducing pressure when gold prices increase sharply over time.
The important thing is that the recipient feels respect, not necessarily the right number of gold threads as before," said Mr. Tran Pham Hung Quy.
The second option is to choose a gift that is both materially valuable and spiritually meaningful, with a total value equal to or higher than the gift you have received. It can be jewelry, valuable household items, or souvenirs suitable for the bride and groom's preferences.
A gift that is carefully selected, has a story and sends sincerity, is often more cherished than gold," Mr. Tran Pham Hung Quy analyzed.
According to experts, in the context of volatile economy, openly exchanging and agreeing on how to get married between friends and relatives is also a way to reduce unnecessary pressure.
Customs are only truly meaningful when they contribute to strengthening relationships, but do not become a financial burden for young families.
