According to Master of Psychology Bui Thi Hai Yen - Founder and CEO of NHC Vietnam Human Psychology and Development System, to make a suitable marriage decision, each person needs to consider based on core factors of personal and psychological conditions.
1. Set realistic goals instead of perfectionism
Preparing before marriage is necessary, but if you set too high standards about finance or career, many people can easily fall into a state of procrastination because they feel it is not enough.
2. Understand personal desires
Everyone needs to clearly define what they want in marriage and life. This helps avoid being caught up in the expectations of society or family.
3. Balance between personal freedom and responsibility
Fear of losing freedom is a common psychology, but marriage does not mean completely abandoning personal needs. When you know how to balance, each person can still develop themselves in a relationship.
4. Develop a plan instead of waiting for perfection
Instead of waiting until everything is complete, everyone should make specific plans for the future. Preparation steps that are appropriate to the ability will help reduce pressure and increase proactiveness.
5. Proactively exchange with family
Marriage pressure often comes from the expectations of loved ones. Frankly sharing personal thoughts and plans will help family understand and accompany, instead of creating more pressure.
