Ms. B shared that her and her husband were in a 4-year relationship and got married in 2009. Her husband is 7 years older than her, so he patiently waited for her to finish university. After 3 years of dating, the husband in the North moved in with his family.
At that time, Ms. B went to study in Dong Nai, so she rarely visited her husband's house and did not have many opportunities to meet her. Since the two families officially met to discuss getting married, the husband has objected, clearly expressing his disagreement with this marriage.
At the first meal when Ms. B went home to her husband, conflicts began to arise. The husband criticized her in front of his family, using harsh words. Although Ms. B felt deeply hurt, she tried to endure and thought that maybe because she was not married, she was difficult and hot-tempered. Her parents-in-law were just silent because of her grandmother's generosity, her husband fell into an awkward position and he did not speak up to defend his wife.
Every day, Ms. B does all the housework, but the husband is still not satisfied, like washing vegetables twice with broken water is not clean. In the afternoon, she went out to eat with friends and unfortunately had a stomachache - she blamed the meal she cooked. Ms. B proactively gave up cooking to her mother-in-law and only helped, but she was always scolded and criticized for the smallest things.
Once she was wrongly accused of stealing money, even though she was shocked, Ms. B remained calm and suggested checking the camera again to clarify. The results showed that she had not gone into her grandmother's room all day.
However, the husband did not apologize but also expressed his anger and skipped dinner. Not stopping there, the old lady brazenly took Mrs. B's trousers to work and used a broken knife.
Too frustrated because of the insult, Ms. B affirmed that she had not done anything wrong and checked the camera again, but she still denied it and did not apologize. The biggest sadness for her was not only her husband's actions but also the silence of the family.
The conflict significantly affected Ms. B's life. When the husband arbitrarily entered the couple's private room, her husband's work documents were disrupted, and she even went into her private bathroom to pour shower gel, causing the floor to slip, causing Ms. B to accidentally fall. But even Ms. B and her husband did not know that she was pregnant, so they did not blame her for this incident.
To reduce stress, Ms. B and her husband temporarily moved to live with their extended family after being approved by her mother-in-law.
During her time living with her biological parents, Ms. B initially faced fierce opposition from her family. However, she clearly explained that it was a way for her to regain her balance after the injuries, not because she wanted to put her husband in a difficult position.
Since then, more than 10 years have passed, and the couple still live with their extended family. For her, her current life is still peaceful enough and not too stressful.
After listening to Ms. B's story, Dr. To Nhi A said: "If you believe you are valuable, are the one who can preserve a small family, be a daughter-in-law of a daughter-in-law of a daughter-in-law of a daughter-in-law of a daughter-in-law with enough dignity, then what should you worry about? Mentioning her husband's marriage - although accidental, made her husband defend her by criticizing, examining and trying to deny her value. Therefore, your behavior is easily misunderstood.
At the end of the program, Ms. B refused to turn on the lights because she did not want to affect her family life.
