Talking to psychologist To Nhi A, Ms. B said she met her husband at a friend's birthday party. After only three months of getting to know each other, she decided to get married.
Before getting married, Ms. B helped the family with unstable work. After getting married, according to her mother-in-law's wishes, she stayed at home to work as a housewife. Although she is nearly 30 years old - her husband is still a true "puppet" - she has been protected by her mother since childhood.
However, after getting married, her mother-in-law's attitude completely changed. She clearly assigned the task: "Your duty is to take good care of your husband", forcing Ms. B to wake up early to prepare toothpaste, towel and clothes to wrap for her husband from the previous night.
Although both husband and wife love each other, Ms. B believes that love can help her husband gradually change. However, her mother-in-law refused to stop her, saying to Ms. B's husband: "Now you are getting married, why let me sit on your head? These are women's things, my job is just to make money".
Before Ms. B returned to be a daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law was the one who directly took care of her son. After about 2 months of marriage - her father-in-law passed away from illness, Ms. B thought that she wanted her child to be married to replace her role. For her, housework is simply cleaning and cooking, while her husband can do personal things like preparing scarves and clothes to do it on her own, why does her mother-in-law keep forcing her to do it?
Not stopping there, after her father passed away, her mother-in-law gave the excuse "because the house was big, sleeping alone was afraid" - so she wanted to sleep with her and her husband. But the bed was small, her husband suggested that she go to the ground to sleep, but the mother immediately put her off because she was afraid her son would be sick and she wouldn't be able to go to work. Finally, the person who had to lie on the ground was Ms. B - who lasted from the second month of pregnancy until the time of giving birth.
All expenses in the house are kept by her mother-in-law, because she keeps all of her husband's salary.
The climax was an argument, her mother-in-law loudly thought that she was in trouble, her husband, out of anger, beat his wife, causing her to fall and hit the corner of the closet, bleeding profusely. Confused, she took her child out to cry for help, neighbors and her parents had to take her to the hospital.
That was the first time she was beaten by her husband - a big shock that made her decide to divorce. Although her husband later begged for her apology, she still could not help but feel over it.
At that time, Ms. B did not go to work because she had a small child, was not in good health and her mother-in-law did not want her to go out to find a job. During the time she was unfairly treated by her mother-in-law, she kept everything a secret from her biological parents because she didn't want them to worry.
Since moving out alone, she has not met her mother-in-law, while her husband has gradually changed, knowing how to care for, share housework and take care of his children. Although the pain is still there, Ms. B still hopes that one day her mother-in-law will change, opening up her love for her grandchild and daughter-in-law as she once took good care of her son.
When Dr. To Nhi A asked why her husband let Ms. B do small things like taking toothpaste, she said that was her mother-in-law's wish - to have her daughter-in-law take care of her husband from small things. Although her husband was uncomfortable and wanted to do it himself, if she let her see it, she would be scolded. Because she has only focused on school since childhood and has few conflicts, her husband was uncomfortable when his mother scolded him.
At the end of the program, Ms. B refused to turn on the lights because she did not want to affect her future life, only hoping that her sharing could help others learn lessons.
