The marriage did not break down in one day. It gradually collapsed, from empty meals, from avoiding eyes, from trying to say but still doing so.
According to psychologists, a loss of connection between husband and wife is a quiet but persistent process and if not recognized soon to heal, the gap will increase, leading to separation or divorce.
Breakdown - the origin of cracks
Communication is a bond of emotional connection between two people. However, after a period of living together, many couples gradually took the opportunity to talk to each other lightly. The stories that once interested the other person have now become shabby and dry. Many people choose to stay silent instead of dialogue, leading to an increasingly large gap.
Psychologist Nguyen Hong Nhung (Hanoi Marriage Consulting Center) commented: "When we stopped communicating, the couple no longer understood each other. Any small misunderstanding will accumulate and create a big barrier if not resolved promptly."
Forgotten care
Time and the pressures of life make many people forget that it is the small care that is the glue to preserve love. A compliment, a hug after work, or a small act of care... when it disappears will make both of them strangers in their own home.
Mr. Nguyen Van Thanh (35 years old, Thanh Hoa City) shared: "We have lived together for more than 10 years, but now we only talk when it is necessary. Both of them were busy, so they should be the ones to understand each other, but in fact, no one understood anyone.
Not expressing what you want
Another reason for a couple's disconnection is not daring, not wanting or not knowing how to express emotions and desires. The buried expectations lead to disappointment, then a simmering conflict. When they cannot share important things, the couple gradually lives in their own world, and marriage becomes a form.
Life revolves around children and food
After having children or facing financial pressure, many couples are just common roommates, raising children together, and paying off debts. The role of "lover - partner" is gradually being forgotten. When all the conversations revolved around children's education, gasoline prices, and electricity bills, romance gradually died out.
Each person has a different direction
Marriage not only requires love but also common goals. When each person only cares about their own path and does not look in the same direction, the bond will gradually disappear. The lack of long-term planning and common experiences makes the feeling of "accompanying" bland.
How to prevent marriage from becoming an empty shell?
Psychologists recommend that couples should spend at least 15 minutes a day chatting seriously, without phone calls, without interruptions.
caring through small actions: A surprise message, a glass of cool water, a simple meal are enough to make your partner feel loved.
Sharing your feelings sincerely: Use the language "I feel..." to talk about emotions, instead of criticizing.
Rebuild your relationship: Don't forget dating, short vacations or simply an evening spent just for two.
Set goals together: No matter how small you are, grow trees, learn how to cook, travel - everything helps to nurture a sense of companionship.
An unsupported marriage needs to be nurtured every day. If you feel disconnected, don't wait for a beautiful day, start today.
