Married life is not always sweet, and there are times of anger and arguing that cannot be avoided. But in those everyday years, whether love can be maintained or not depends a lot on the attitude of life and the way of behaving towards each other every day.
The ancient people once said: "Stility is in man". In marriage, as long as the two of you maintain it together, learn to reduce the things that are hurtful and add the things that soothe each other, happiness will not leave the home. Here is the formula "two less, three more" - a small but effective key in maintaining a happy marriage.
Two less
1. Few doubts
Trust is the foundation of all relationships. Once suspicious, the couple will easily look at each other through distorted lenses, thereby creating misunderstandings and cracks. Many families have broken up just because of baseless speculations.
Instead of checking your phone and remaining silent, learn to put faith first - understand later. Trust is not only about giving space to the other person, but also about showing respect and courage for oneself.
2. Few complaints
Married life has hundreds of disagreements. But complaining does not make the other person feel better, it only makes the gap bigger.
Instead of saying I never help with housework!, say If I had a one-sided stepping man, I would have had less hardship. Changed language - changed emotions - also changed results.
Many
1. Respect more
Love that wants to last long must be based on personal respect. The couple are partners, not bondholders or supervisors of each other.
Respecting private space, personal preferences, respecting the right to choose, to be different - that is the way to keep marriage from becoming a tie, but a voluntary companionship.
2. More care
Time and the burden of food easily make people forget to ask each other. But the marriage did not go away because of lack of money but because of lack of attention at the right time.
A handshake when tired, a greeting when coming home from work late, a quiet look in the midst of chaos - sometimes, just that is enough to keep each other together.
3. More encouragement
No one is born strong enough. There are very bad days and people need a word of encouragement more than a judgment.
A good husband is someone who knows how to say: "You do well." A smart wife will know how to say: "I have worked hard, I understand". Timely encouragement is the most valuable spiritual medicine in every marriage.
Happiness is that as each day passed, we both tried to ease a little bit of the hurt and add a little gentleness. Marriage does not need too many great things, but needs the right choices in every small thing.
Two less - three more are not a secret and miracle, but a simple lesson that anyone can do to keep the most precious thing: a person by their side, for love, not for duty.