Confidence in marital relations
Unlike the previous generation, young people today, when entering the door of marriage, often tend to separate to start a business and live separately. They aspire to freedom, self-reliance and autonomy. Therefore, the economic foundation is no longer just a story of men but becomes a responsibility and also a "shield" to protect the happiness of both genders.
Mr. Tran Minh Quan (29 years old, Hanoi), a software engineer who has just been married for a year, shared: "Before getting married, both my wife and I agreed that we must have our own savings and stable jobs. Not being dependent on our parents helps us to decide everything from curtains to childbirth plans. My confidence comes from knowing that I am strong enough to provide my wife with a full life, and vice versa, I also respect my wife because she has her own career.
Agreeing with this view, Ms. Le Thuy Linh (26 years old, marketing staff) believes that economic proactiveness helps women have a more equal voice: "I don't want to have to beg my husband every time I buy an item for myself or give it to my parents. When I am financially self-sufficient, the confidence in each common decision of the family is also much greater.
Account balance - "catalyst" for happiness
From an expert perspective, Mr. Nguyen Quang Huy - CEO of the Faculty of Finance - Banking (Nguyen Trai University) said that financial surplus is a condition to help improve married life.
According to Mr. Huy, when couples are independent in terms of accommodation and finance, they have private space to be more autonomous.
When the financial foundation is solid, we have better conditions to take care of our partner and ourselves. It helps material and spiritual life become richer. Therefore, from a key perspective, the balance in the account makes married life happier," Mr. Huy emphasized.
From another perspective, finance is not only for paying bills, but also creates a choice. A person with good economic potential will not have to endure harmful or inappropriate relationships just because of food and clothing barriers.
Ms. Do Thu Hong - Financial Advisor of FIDT Investment Consulting and Asset Management Joint Stock Company - analyzed: "When there is financial independence, the relationship will no longer be dependent, but simply because of feelings and love. This is a very positive perspective.
However, Ms. Hong also noted an interesting point of view that confidence is directly proportional to account balance, which is often expressed by women rather than men. Especially, in the painful issue of domestic violence, finance plays a role as a safe way out. Although finance is not a decisive factor in the risk of violence (which depends on the environment and emotions), it is a tool for insiders to make decisions.
If financially independent, victims of violence can make stronger decisions to protect themselves and their families. Conversely, without this autonomy, all decisions to leave or change become extremely difficult," Ms. Hong shared.
In general, financial independence is not to create distance, but a way for us to confidently accompany and respect each other equally. When each person can stand firm on their own two feet, marriage will become a fulcrum for freedom, love and sustainable respect.
