Oh, does your husband ever wash dishes?, Dont say washing dishes, even the TV remote that falls under the table is waiting for me to pick it up!...
This type of conversation is no longer strange in groups of close friends, colleagues or even on social networks.
To some extent, wives complaining and defaming their husbands is not a terrible thing. That is sometimes just a way for women to release stress, relieve frustration, and find sympathy from people in the same situation.
Some people compare "badmouthing about your husband" to a form of "female-style social connection" that contributes to maintaining friendship and intimacy. And in fact, many women after " Talking a plate" go home to cook delicious rice for their husbands, forgetting all the morning anger.
However, things will turn in a different direction if "bad words" become a habit. Some people not only tell small things, but also "talk" about all the weaknesses and bad habits of their husbands - such as being lenient, indifferent, lazy at housework, earning little money, being addicted to the phone... And the important thing is to tell many people, in many places. From the alley- top coffee shop to the closed - open groups on social networks.
At that time, "bad words" are no longer harmless. It affects the image of a husband, the self-respect of men and their respect in marriage. There are husbands who feel deeply hurt when they accidentally listen to their wife's story of "accusing" them of not saying anything to friends and relatives. Many marriages have broken down because of an untrue story, one time being criticized too much.
Of course, the wife is not always wrong. There are silent sufferings that cannot be shared with their husbands, they find someone else to confide in. But it will be safer and more constructive if you choose to speak selectively, find trustworthy people, and importantly, know the stopping point. Because after all, a lasting relationship cannot stand firm on mockery or blaming each other in front of a crowd.
On the contrary, there are wives who choose to speak... on the contrary - they talk about their husbands with sympathy, humor and pride. Instead of saying "My husband is a grown-up, he doesn't know how to teach his children", they choose to say: "He plays with his children in a very unique way, one day he teaches them to sing the whole National Anthem at 10 am at night!". It sounds fun, pleasant and won't hurt anyone.
The story of "slandering your husband" will not be serious if it is just a few jokes between people who understand and respect each other. But if overused, it can easily turn love into a measure of fatigue, where people forget the reason for the beginning.
