In the recent episode of the program "You Want to Date", the story of the couple Dinh Tran and Thanh Thuy's family made the audience feel heartbroken when both brought with them "scratches" of marriage and great family responsibilities, but in the end still could not press the dating button.
The daughter Thanh Thuy (born in 1988), currently living and working in Can Tho, shared that she married when she was young. After many years of living together, the couple had discord, separated and then divorced. Currently, Thuy has two daughters, the older one is 8 years old and the younger one is 2 years old.
The female guest said that the main reason for the breakup came from the fact that the couple could not share, could not find common ground in both work and family matters. “I shared everything but didn't change, we didn't talk to each other anymore, the distance gradually widened,” Thanh Thuy confided. The older baby is currently living with her father to facilitate studying, and Thuy takes her child home to take care of her on weekends.
Meanwhile, Dinh Tran (born in 1985) works in the maritime industry, is currently a management officer and often travels by boat for long days. He also went through a broken marriage, has a 10-year-old daughter living with her mother. Dinh Tran's situation is described by him as "a bit difficult" when both grandfather and parents have passed away, and only grandmother is 97 years old at home. Because his work often goes far away, he is always concerned about taking care of grandmother.
Dinh Tran said that the previous marriage conflict stemmed from differences in views on caregiving. The ex-wife and her maternal family believed that taking care of her was the responsibility of her biological children, while he believed that she should be kept at his home, on his father's land. This prolonged disagreement caused the two to not find common ground and decided to break up.
When opening the fence to meet, Thanh Thuy created sympathy when preparing gifts for the groom's children, because she said that she loves children very much. In response, Dinh Tran frankly expressed his serious desire: if he finds a suitable person in the new year, he is ready to settle down early to plan for the future. For him, the most important thing is that his partner must have understanding and empathy for the situation of having a rieng child as well as the family burden. "Children are not guilty, the most disadvantaged in breakups are the children," he shared.
However, when entering the practical questions, barriers gradually became clear. Thanh Thuy wondered about the geographical distance between Can Tho and Hanoi, and also said that she is taking on the responsibility of taking care of her two young children, so she really needs closeness to learn for a long time. Before the question of whether he can arrange work and stabilize living in the South, Dinh Tran admitted that this is "very difficult", because he still has his grandmother in the North and the nature of work requires frequent train trips.
After a period of thinking, the two decided not to press the dating button. Quyen Linh and Ngoc Lan expressed regret but respected the couple's choice, because this is not an emotional story but a "real-life problem" difficult to solve.
