When dissatisfaction becomes a message
In many families, the feeling of not being satisfied with your wife always makes your husband tired and frustrated. Family psychologist Emily Carter, lecturer at the University of California, USA, commented: Women often not only want material sharing, but also want empathy and understanding in emotions. When these needs are not met, a feeling of dissatisfaction can easily appear."
Not all complaints are criticism, according to Carter. Many times, your wife just wants to listen, admit her feelings and see you really caring.
The root of communication and expectations
Researchers show that differences in perception and expectation of marriage are a common cause. London (UK) marriage counselor John Roberts shared: men often focus on solving problems, while women want to connect emotions. If the husband resolves the matter too reasonably and ignores his wife's feelings, dissatisfaction will increase."
In fact, many husbands think that work and responsibility are enough to show their efforts, but their wives expect small actions, such as listening, sharing housework, or taking note of those efforts. When the expectation gap is too large, reality is too big, dissatisfaction will appear frequently.
Smart behavior
To reduce this situation, Ms. Carter recommends: Focus on listening proactively, asking open questions, and often asking your wife how she feels. Sometimes, just a little attention is enough to change the family atmosphere".
John Roberts added: marriage is a constant adjustment. Don't consider your wife's complaints as an attack, but consider them a signal to improve emotional connection."
Understanding the needs and expressed feelings of a wife, from the small details, will help reduce conflicts and increase satisfaction in marriage.
