Talking to reporters, poet Lu Mai frankly said that the pressure of modern life, if viewed superficially, seems to erode happiness, but if we go deeper, it is necessary for people to recognize happiness more clearly.
I think today's pressure is not simply about food and clothing, but a form of "invisible pressure": Must succeed faster, must live better, must be happier than others... Social networks make happiness compared, measured, even "performed". In that flow, people easily confuse the feeling of being recognized with the feeling of real peace.
Poet Lu Mai believes that pressure therefore has two sides. On the one hand, it makes people exhausted, losing the ability to feel small things that are the foundation of happiness: A full meal, a conversation not in a hurry. When the pace of life is pushed too fast, happiness becomes something that is always "in front", while the present is just a journey of pursuit.
But on the other hand, pressure also forces us to ask ourselves: What are we living for? Does what we are pursuing really belong to us? It is in the most precarious times that people have the opportunity to return, filter and redefine happiness in their own way.
I believe that happiness in modern times does not lie in completely eliminating pressure - which is almost impossible - but in the ability to face pressure. When we know how to stop at the right time, know how to limit unnecessary comparisons, and keep for ourselves a moment of inner silence, then pressure will no longer be an enemy, but become part of the journey of maturity" - poet Lu Mai said.
Happiness is not a state of no storm, but the ability to maintain peace even amidst the turmoil of life.
I think, the busyness of modern life is an undeniable reality, but what is more worth thinking about is what we are busy with, and what the price to pay is? When each person is caught up in their own rhythm of life, families are very easily pushed down to "the rest of the time".
The connection therefore does not disappear suddenly, but quietly thins: sparse meals, short conversations, and sometimes, silence lasting right in the same roof.
I don't think the problem lies entirely in the busyness. Busyness itself is not an enemy of happiness. The important thing is whether in that busyness, we still maintain the awareness of family as a priority or not?
If family is only remembered when we are free, the connection will certainly be loose. But if, even in the cycle of work, we still proactively spend a part of our time and attention on loved ones, then the connection can still be nurtured" - poet Lu Mai emphasized.
Poet Lu Mai also believes that family does not need to be together for too much time. Meaning that when we are together, we feel the presence, not separated by phones, work or other worries. Just a short but complete period of time, sometimes more valuable than the long time together while the heart is elsewhere.
The loose trend in family connection, besides the consequences of modern society, is also a warning reminding each person to readjust their lifestyle, priorities, and ways of loving.
Because in the end, work can change, social relationships can come and go, but if family loses their bond, it is very difficult to reconcile as before. Perhaps, the most regrettable thing is not that we are too busy, but that we realize it when it is too late.
