The secret to changing lazy children

That is because parents do not know how to stimulate their children's internal motivation to voluntarily form good study habits. As the story shared in the program "Creating a new life - the way to happiness" by Ms. Pham Thi Kim Loan (HCMC) is a vivid proof that when understanding the right way to communicate, mothers can completely change their children's study habits without having to resort to drastic measures.

The child is lazy to study, the mother is worried.

Ms. Loan is a loving and devoted mother to her son - L.T.M (13 years old), but in her eyes, those efforts and sacrifices seem not enough to help her son change. Ms. Loan always has to remind her son to do his homework, and be there for him to study, but M often avoids and only completes it when under her mother's supervision.

Everything seemed to have reached a dead end. Ms. Loan felt very tired when facing endless arguments about M's studies. "I tried everything, from scolding to rewarding, from punishment to serious conversations, but it seemed like my child still did not change. I felt extremely helpless," Ms. Loan shared.

But everything changed when Ms. Loan met psychotherapist Nguyen Thi Lanh and participated in the program “Creating a new life - the way to happiness”. In the program, she heard stories of many other mothers in similar situations, but they changed when they realized they had fallen into the “trap” of traditional educational methods: always focusing on academic results, pressure on grades, and too high expectations from parents.

Expert Nguyen Thi Lanh helped her understand that parents often make the mistake of focusing on academic results, forgetting that their children's learning is not just a task, but a journey of discovery and self-development. Children at M's age do not need criticism about their academic results, but need a mother who can understand their feelings and worries about learning. Sometimes, children's learning difficulties are not due to laziness, but due to lack of motivation and lack of self-confidence.

Mother motivates her child to study through understanding

As if finding a lifebuoy, Ms. Loan decided to completely change the way she educates and accompanies M.

“Instead of asking my child to do homework right away, I started asking him about what he liked and what kind of person he wanted to become in the future. We sat down together and talked, analyzing that studying is to equip him with knowledge, help him realize his dreams, grow up to be successful and live a valuable life. When he has goals and dreams, he will have the motivation to study hard and most effectively,” Loan shared.

This change has begun to bring clear results. M no longer avoids or feels that studying is a burden. She is more proactive, finding ways to solve problems herself instead of waiting for her mother to help. Studying is no longer a battle, but an interesting discovery between mother and child.

When asked about this change, M admitted: “Before, I felt that studying was just an obligation and I didn’t want to do it. But now my mother doesn’t force me anymore, I can do what I like and study in my own way. That makes me feel much more comfortable.”

Ms. Loan said: “I have realized that instead of trying to control everything, I need to trust my child, so that he can freely develop in his own way. The important thing is to help him see the joy in learning, not because of pressure from his mother or too much expectation, but because he himself wants to learn and develop. Thank you to the program “Creating a new life”, because it is here that I have found the right path to change my family’s life.”