Protecting in front of children
Many parents think: "You are young, what does he know how to scold like that?". Ancient people have the saying: "Evidue, supporting" - I am not educated is the fault of a father and mother. Sometimes the father is seriously teaching his children, the mother or grandparents can prevent them from protecting her children and protecting her. Such defense, protecting children is actually harming the child, which we are not aware.
Parents beg and beg their children
For example, parents both seduce and beg their children to eat or go to bed; Promise to give this child, that if the child will follow. The psychology of young children is: the more begging, the more puffy, the more they are, the more they are demanding. Thus, not only makes children an irresponsible person, but in the eyes of their children, the solemnity of parents also gradually disappears, making education more and more difficult.
Fear of children crying
From a young age, whenever they are not comfortable, children often cry, whisper, and demand. Many parents are afraid that their children will cry loudly, affect those around them, or because they love their children too much, they cannot stand each time their children cry. Because they love their children, parents urge and make compromises to stop crying.
But as a parent, if you are always afraid of your child's crying, you will soon be controlled by him. If they do not correct in time, children will become dependent, dependent, difficult to speak to and form a personality of lack of self-reliance.
The habit of laziness and sloppiness
In daily life, parents are often flexible so that their children can eat, study, and play freely, regardless of the time. Do not teach your children the habit of moderate activities, according to the rules of the hour, but often follow their wishes. That makes children lacking in rules, not in a strict order, and grow up easily being reckless, arbitrary, and not having to work at home.
depriving children of their independence
As a parent, who does not love their children and consider them a parent? But because of that mentality, many people protect their children too tightly, always afraid that their children will leave their wrists and get into trouble. As a result, children lose confidence, lack independence, and become shy.
Such children often show signs of " reason at home, rat outside" - speaking loudly to relatives, but weak when entering society, because they lack courage and practical training.
Working on behalf of children
Many parents, because they love and pamper their children too much, do not dare to let their children work. They ignore teaching their children to know how to work, not giving them the opportunity to feel the joy of seeing the results of their own efforts.
Others, seeing their children being slow and dissatisfied, complained: "If it helps, I'll do it quickly!". But if they continue like that, children will become lazy, lack a sense of responsibility, not know how to share and do not appreciate the efforts of others.
