A moment later, a gray-haired old man walked in, slowly said: "Give me a silver cup, just a little sugar, thank you". The owner smiled immediately, asked again to be sure, and then gently said as he handed over the cup: "Today I mixed it a bit lightly, please see if it fits, if needed, I'll adjust it.
You sit there, suddenly realize: Still that person, that space, but the way the story started has silently shaped how it is responded to. Each person, in a very natural way, has "suggested" to others, how to treat themselves.
Someone said that the way others treat you is a mirror reflecting the way you treat them. In life, it happens very naturally, few people pay attention.
He works in the media, often complaining that colleagues find it difficult to cooperate. But in meetings, he often interrupts and rebuts when others have not finished speaking. Gradually, people also respond to him with haste, less patience, and keep things that could have been shared. Conversely, she works in the office and is loved by many people. When someone talks, she usually looks straight ahead, listens attentively, and rarely reacts hastily. The emails she sends always contain a thank you, even if it's a small thing. And people are more patient with her, willing to help, and more tolerant when she has shortcomings.
Usually, no individual intentionally "teaches" others how to treat themselves. They only live according to their habits, and it is these very small things that silently set limits and standards for what they receive in return.
Of course, life is not always as fair as a perfect mirror. There are times when you are kind but still feel cold, sincere but still misunderstood. But if you look on a long journey, the way you treat people around you always tends to turn back, maybe not from the same person, but at a different time, in a different circumstance.
It's like when you step into a room full of mirrors. You frown, other faces also gently frown along. You smile, the space seems to soften and everyone seems to laugh with you. The mirrors don't try to make you happy or sad, they just silently reflect.
Many times, just a little change, a softer sentence, a slower look, one consideration, not rushing to react, the reflected image will also be different and everything will become easier for you.
